Monk mode failure or success? The difference maker.

It is my understanding that monk mode is not just some magical temporary mode of life that miraculously gives birth to a new person just by following a set of rules.

I cannot point to the origin of this concept of monk mode, but I see (at least I think I see) what it can be and what it is. For many it seems like a desperate move, like sacrificing your queen when you are panicked when the opposition seems to be gaining the upper hand. It has just become a popular thing that people sort of fall into because that is all the rave. Like spirituality, people around you talk about it enough and you all of sudden you become a guru whenever you see the slightest miracle happen before our eyes.

The secret sauce is not some miracle, it is in the work that you put in when you put yourself in the optimum environment. That is, you have planted yourself in a garden with the optimal soil conditions. Now, you have to water the seed, you have to cut the weeds, you have to manage the insects, and finally you have to harvest the food.

Monk mode puts you in an optimal condition to grow. You manage your new environment with intent. You don't just idly stand by waiting for the day count to reach 90 days. You have to learn how to really live without the high pleasure low reward sexual activities. You have to work consciously to embody your daily activities. You cannot just leave your mind to do what it wants, you have to learn how to guide it, to master it (which is slightly different control). Erase the destination of 90 days (or whatever amount) in your mind and occupy the recurring present. Erase the magical event of being freed back into the compulsive world that awaits you after you've completed the mode. Again, it is just an environment that leads to optimal growth.

When you decide to go monk mode you must take advantage. The life within you can flower, but the brain that you occupy is only wired for sexual pleasure, so leaving it up to the brain will not help you flower as the brain knows only the past. This is a chance for the life within to burst out.

 

Yes, I do. I meditate at least twice a day (granted I do miss a session every now and then). But, there is another way to look at meditation, finding the conscious balance between your inner life and the external world and bringing yourself back to that place over and over again throughout the day. This is also something that I have tried to work towards everyday. I am not there, because my addiction just shifted to other things: food and NoFap for example.

Here are a couple of videos (each an hour long) that points to that second way of "meditating", if you're interested:

 

The common baseline 'rules' (from what I saw): No porn. No masturbation. No sex. No orgasm.

For me, I added: No social media, no video entertainment, meditating three times a day, doing yoga, and eating healthy.

 

Always start your day with yoga (or light exercises or a simple jog) and meditation, much better than coffee. When starting with video entertainment you are hitting your brain with a whole bunch of dopamine right away, now the rest of the day is going to have to match that in some way, so remedial tasks get boiled down to nothing of value.

My meditations were "transmitted" to me from Sadhguru (a guru, if you are not familiar with him) via his on-line programs. If you believe in spirituality and are open to other "dimensions", this will make sense. Otherwise, you can ignore this part.

On the other hand, I generally believe that using multiple types of meditations is necessary and more fruitful. Guided meditations are especially good for me, but it depends on who the mediator is. I also recently came across a good example of a meditation; it is becoming aware of your different body parts. Tension and whatnot.

 

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