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Advice/Question - camgirl 'friend' but I want to nofap.

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Mike1991, May 21, 2021.

  1. Mike1991

    Mike1991 Fapstronaut

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    Hello!

    I am wanting to get back into NoFap. I don't think it has been that much of a serious issue for me until recently I did get into a camming binge.

    I was never into camming, and my binge really got me to realize that those girls really don't care about you, other than to sweet talk with you and make "tips". I really feel bothered with that fact and I know that is not the way to meet girls/interact. It makes me feel worse knowing I still went with it despite feeling the way I did.

    With that being said, I did come across a model who was new but was fun to talk with. She does have a warm and caring personality, but then she got "more popular" and I feel she changed a bit. More of taking camming seriously.

    It got me to think, and i know I would like to get more into nofap since my last run I felt great. However, with this 'camgirl' I share messages here and there with, I am not sure how to approach the situation.

    I feel ghosting her would be the best way to go about everything, or if i should tell her I plan to take time for myself/no more of me being interested in XXX stuff. I also am not sure if i view her the same like I did before. I feel really silly bringing this up, but it has been on my mind needed to let it out.

    Thanks.
     
  2. Mr Rn

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    I would say tell her that you're dedicated to improving yourself, but idk if going on that site is a good idea with all the triggers available. Just know that these girls are camming not to talk or care about you, but to profit. You think there would be a market for this if it wasn't motivated by the money they get ?
     
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  3. Mike1991

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    Yes. That is what I realized. Cam girls just try to milk you for money and truly don't care about you.
     
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  4. Mr Rn

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    I'm not sure if your situation is similar to mine, where I literally cannot talk to girls since I'm at home 24/7 - But if you can, go out there, just socializing with them is more of a W than giving your money to cammers for their attention, you feel me? Maybe you'll find someone you like and get motivated to make a move, who knows
     
  5. Mike1991

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    Yes. I was never fond or into cams, just had a period where emotions got the best of me and I got too involved. I do appreciate your help and I think I will just let her know I am going to work on myself. Thank you again!
     
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  6. fredisthebes

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    It sounds like you need a friend, and you are looking in the wrong place for one.

    Don't worry about 'ghosting' her, she talks to guys all day. It's just another kind of porn, and you are better off without.
     
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  7. HunnishKshatriya505

    HunnishKshatriya505 Fapstronaut

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    Just politely distance yourself from her. She will eventually forget you ever existed.
     
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  8. skullfull7

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    Camgirla are doing what they are doing to get money, they hate it man.

    Who likes a job where you have to please people so you earn a living, what's worse you just act and show them your body, she's just a sex performer, you would never get to the real her, women don't exist in the xxx industry, it's like saying this hooker is sexy and nice, all hookers are swxy and nice, if they are not they won't be making a living out of it. So I suggest you accept that your addicted to cam and develop a plan to it, plus man cam no cam, nudity is P, watching people who wear pikinis is to a degree like watching P, same effect on brain.
     
  9. josedelamuerte

    josedelamuerte Fapstronaut

    Don't delude yourself. This girl is not your friend. You are her client.
     
  10. ANewFocus

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    Tell her what you’re trying to do and why you’re leaving. Thank her and move on.
     
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  11. cresyhorse

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    send her a msg asking her to meet up. having a virtual girlfriend isn't good.
     
  12. ANewFocus

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  13. HansiK

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    my suggest is: Run as fast you can... in 99 % of the cases the girls just want to built up a realitionship to get advantages like money. They talk with many guys so they know how to talk to you so you won't get any distrust. Forget her and search for girls in your rl
     
  14. Maybe just stop having sexual conversations with her completely. If she loses interest in you, who cares? She was a bad influence anyway. If she keeps talking to you - you just made a friend. Win-Win. (or do what @cresyhorse said lmao)
     
  15. DreamingWolf

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    Yep...they are very skilled at this. And if you eventually catch them in lies or discrepancies, they are also skilled at ready-made answers and sometimes, even alligator tears. I have been through all of this with a cam model who was telling me for 6 months that I was her boyfriend, that she adored me and wanted a future with me, that she envisioned our days together....some of these girls are sociopaths. Your feelings mean nothing to them.
     

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