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Girlfriend no longer attracted to me after masturbating me with her hand

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by Confiscate, Jun 14, 2021.

  1. Confiscate

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    Hi everyone i need help... My girlfriend had her periods recently. We went both to bed to cuddle. I was feeling a little bit sick as well (had a fever). I slowly lead her hand to my penis while we were cuddling and made her masturbate me. She started masturbating me until she made me orgasm all over myself. We had a fight the next day about something and we basically broke up. Now that i'm feeling healthy and cured from my recent illness i tried to make up with her but it didn't work out. She lost interest and i have a feeling that she's no longer attracted to me :(. Is it possible that this masturbation act was the cause? How could i make this up? I tried talking to her but she blocked me over the phone. I was in a 1 year reltionship with her. The sex was great.
     
  2. Nucleus

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    I'd be surprized if that were the sole cause. Maybe she felt a bit forced but if the relationship were healthy, that might not matter. I would suggest that the relationship was already over in her mind.

    Maybe it's good to be single for a while
     
  3. You "made" her do it? It's possible that she feels used if you did didn't bother to find out how she felt about it at the moment. It's also possible that the issue has nothing to do with that incident. After all, this is a place for P addicts so is it safe to assume you've been dealing with that?

    To you, is sex the most important aspect of your relationship?
     
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  4. HansiK

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    I would not overinterpretate things... More realistic it this happened because the fight of the next day. What was the reason, the thing you fight about?
    If she allready blocked you, i would forget her and search for other girls. If you are cured from PMO, you have all opportunities for great sex, so enjoy that luck and do not make yourself to much pressure because o anything. Just do not go to prostitutes, this will lead you in the next addiction.
     
  5. Ekhangel

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    Today's girls who provide "opportunities for great sex" are the new prostitutes. Only they're for free, save for the date costs, if need be.
     
  6. HansiK

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    And now? That is not a problem. Prostitutes are addictive, even more like porn. Even if sluts are addictive, they will not ruin your life. And nobody is forced in having ONS or sex with sluts. Just look for a good girlfriend and things are fine, too.
     
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  7. In my very personal opinion, I don't think she breaking up with you is directly related to the masturbation episode.
    If there is something weird is her not giving an explanation and telling you why. Sometimes it happens, people do not want to explain themselves and cut out all communication, the problem is that it does not give you closure, and keep you wondering. It's hard because the more you push to get some explanation the worse communication gets. I'd just try to pass her the message (a letter. an email) that it's ok to break up, you feel confused because you don't know why, but you respect her decision and will not contact her. And then move on... there's nothing else you can do.
     
  8. Ekhangel

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    Why would prostitutes ruin your life anyway? They're professionals. And the price list is known in advance. It's not a matter of ruining anything, it's just a matter of shitty lifestyle choices in general. And yes, having a good girlfriend is also... good - if you're not changing "girlfriends" every three months.

    But to each his own, anyway.
     
  9. HansiK

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    There are 3 addictions that i've been with: Porn, camgirls und prostitutes. For me the camgirl addiction was the worse, but the addiction with prostitutes is very bad too. In the end this both are even much worse as porn addiction. That why i told you they will ruin your life. It is not a question of fault - you do your own decisions and in most cases prostitutes are just poor souls in need of money.
    I do no think with sluts things can get that out of control like with prostitutes - because with prostitutes you have more power, you do not have to care about what the girl likes because you pay. But maybe i am wrong, i do not know it for sure.
     
  10. Ekhangel

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    Ok, you are probably right about this. I've never even been close to a prostitute so I can't tell. I just wanted to note that "easy girls" can be destructive to our lives too (here I do have somewhat more personal experience).
     
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  11. ANewFocus

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    And boys too.
     
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  12. HansiK

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    And because of excessive use of porn, camgirls and prostutites i was never that near of the easy girls. So thanks for sharing, i will be carefull with this. Best for now will be hardmode in the next 90 days. Because of my ED i could not even have Sex, so better if I not even try it.
     
  13. Ray S

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    Sluts are desperate for attention, also not good to print the idea in your head that giving attention equals sex.
    A good girl will grand sex with you as you two have something special together.

    Prostitutes are in fact desperate for money, but I am desperate to get paid at my job as well.

    At least there's a little hope for girls making independent money, as she will most likely will not have a degree or stable life.
    At least operating without a pimp that is, that's why it should be legal and the government should support those woman.

    It will be worse if a woman is dependent on a man she lives with, because of money and he abuses and/or takes advantage of her.
     
  14. Ekhangel

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    Yeah, but ask yourself a question: which is more probable and common: a happy husband-dependent wife or a happy customer-dependent prostitute?

    Still, this will probably turn into a pointless argument, because many hookers claim to be happy with the lifestyle they lead (and get defensive if you try to argue with that) and you can't disprove them really.
     
  15. TimeToQuitNow

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    What was the fight about? My guess is that is the reason, not the masturbation
     
  16. Ray S

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    Yeah sure.

    Unfortunately some woman that resolve to prostitution had an unstable upbringing from their parents, it might involve being poor, (sexual) abuse, drugs etc.
    Or they do not want to work at minimum wage, or they just have bad work moral in general.
    This could also be due to upbringing, or a combination.

    Some people just have keep this cycle going, the rarely just turn around and live a happy husband-wife kind of life.
    Or they need help in their early years to keep them motivated to do something etc.

    If at least a safe working environment is granted, these woman can make their own money.
     
    Last edited: Jun 14, 2021
  17. TobyCelibate

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    Agree. I’d just move on dude.
    My Current Girlfriend told me we should break up, because she doesn’t wanna waste my time.

    I talked with her about it, expressed my feelings, and pulled back completely.

    she came back to me yes.
    But now I have a couple side pieces just in case
     
  18. BodhiTree

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    I dont think it was the masturbation episode, in her head she already moved on.

    If she blocked you, it's a sign of lack of respect, your only reasonable course of action is to let her go. You dont want to be a stalker.
     
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  19. Should this really be posted on the forums?
     
  20. and your user name is Toby Celibate?
    and you're the one who's suggesting that the key to getting over massage parlour addiction is to find a significant other?
     
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