Addicted to interracial porn and even got my wife into it

You describe the problem that you're having, and I'm sorry to hear about it. Do you also have any ideas on how to remedy the situation, and get rid of the problem?

 

Read Shelby Steele’s White Guilt

 

She's probably right. Without knowing anything about you guys, my guess is that it would be an awful experience.

Maybe the solution can be to stop feeding this addiction, and instead get rid of it? I guess it would mean that you have to stop watching porn and stop fantasising about interracial stuff.

 

It’s on Amazon. Get the audio book. Listen to it with your wife. You are fetishizing your insecurities surrounding race.

 

i have had fantasies and masturbated in a chat room discussing discussing sharing my wife. In the heat of the moment it can be a very powerful turn-on. In reality I don't really want to share her, but in that moment it can be so arousing. We have a good sex life so I am not sure where this came from. I have not shared this with her, so she has no idea.

 

Then why don't you just go for it? Cutting out the porn, that is. And yes, I agree that fantasising is much harder to stop, but I think that if you cut out the porn the fantasies will fade if you don't indulge in them. You can try to search for success stories here on the forum about guys who have fetishes induced from porn that fades during the reboot. I'm still an addict and haven't come very far in my reboot, so my words probably won't help you more than this.

Btw, you seem to have a great and supporting wife!

 

Haha, yes it's hard! There are people here that have been trying to cure their addiction for years, and they just commit relapse after relapse. But they don't give up because what options do they have? These addictions can have a bad influence on your happiness and can also be very harmful for your mental health.

Perhaps you can try to make a plan on how to cure yourself and go from there?

 

Well i guess that it's just a normal fantasy
there are a millions of them in the world so don't worry. this should stay secret

 

It’s a porn induced fetish, go months without PMO and I’m sure it’ll disappear.

 

I've had some pretty weird fetishes in the past and I cured them by making myself fap to normal vanilla porn or just simple nude pics of women whenever I relapsed. I now heavily prefer normal vanilla porn over fetish porn.

 

Thats sick. Good news is that its escalation into a weird fetish and can be reversed.
ALmost all fetishes are porn escalation (there might be few exceptions).
It took me at least two years of struggles to "forget" or numb my desire for my fetishes.
I was addicted to femdom and humiliation, and today I feel that doesn't attract me at all.
On the few occasions I watched a vanilla porn or even instagram pic of non nude women, I felt much more aroused than I have been for decades.

Now, of course, I try to avoid even vanilla pics, instagram and Tinder. They are still variants of porn.

 

bro I need to tell you this is cuck behavior matter a fact you are a cuck just think how your parents is going to react when they find out your fetish. Also tell your wife something is wrong with yourself and that you need help bcs if your not direct with her she going to get that bbc try to find a therapist

 

Guys, @mdz and @Heracles1268 , let's not be so negative and judgmental. That type of attitude is usually counterproductive. Much better to be supportive and encourage change in a positive way.