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Do you guys know people who watch porn and are normal?

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by koolman, Sep 26, 2021.

  1. koolman

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    My question is does anyone here know people that watch porn and are not effected by this addiction? I.e they don't have pied and other things. And they watch porn and are perfectly fine?
    If yes how are they fine? And do you guys see porn as the real problem?
     
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  2. Randombro

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    Everybody is different. Some one can drink alcohol without doing dumb things and another one will get aggressive. Some guys do gambling and then never again, some are instantly addicted. The same with porn. But in comparison to another addiction porn can change your brain chemistry over time what causes PIED, several escalations etc. Every brain is different. Some are more and some are less plastic
     
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  3. skaterdrew

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    As far as I am aware most guys with high speed internet access watch porn.

    All of my friends watch it. Most of my friends are in relationships with decent jobs.

    But there is a big difference between me and my friends. I don't think any of my friends are edger's or bingers. I remember I told a few of my friends about the way I edged and binged on PMO, taking 5 hours to ejaculate, and they couldn't believe what they were hearing.

    Again they do sometimes jack off to porn, but it's probably a now and again thing, with little to no edging or binging.
     
  4. koolman

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    Ya I've been thinking the problems we have are due to us overdoing it.

    I guess we are similar to people who gamble too much or alcoholics, in moderation many people generally speaking can get along normally but too much turns into a problem and thats what we have done.

    Thanks for the response.
     
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  5. skaterdrew

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    Yeah that's exactly it.
     
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  6. E31

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    A lot, yes!

    Some of them could probably benefit if they wouldn't do it but they are already succesful and confident in their own life so its better they continue to leave some room for us :D
     
  7. In my opinion, the question is: could they walk away from it any time they want to and stay clean? I think that the longer someone uses porn the greater the chance that they will become an addict. I would consider myself to have been a "casual" user for probably 5 years before it began to sink it's teeth in and become an addiction. I didn't even know what happened until it was too late.
     
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  8. The seeker

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    If you don't have an addictive personality than I don't think porn will give you any serious problems. If for example you could just watch and fap over porn just two or three times a week you should be fine. If however you have an addictive personality like I and I suspect a lot of members of this forum have, you can't do that. In my case I end up fapping much as 3-5 times a day for hours at a time. So therefore I have to avoid it as it seems to alter my mind and body chemistry.
     
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  9. Nabson

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    Tout est relatif c'est comme une personne qui boit un verre de vin pendentif le repas cela ne le nuiera pas
    Et une personne qui boit 10 ou 20 bouteilles par soirce dernier risque de gâcher sa vie
     
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  10. Trobone

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    Seeing 90% plus of men over the age of 15 look at porn - and the vast majority of people are "normal" (that's what makes it normal" then the answer is everyone does.

    I have plenty of friends that look at porn but are able to consume it in a non-compulsive way. They're able to hold relationships, have friends, be social, make smart decisioons, etc. I learned I couldn't regulate myself, hence it being all or nothing and me choosing nothing.
     
  11. I knew @skaterdrew would be here dispensing his wisdom. This is an important topic he frequently expounds upon.

    Hope you are well, mate!
     
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  12. modernstore99

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    One of the reasons porn addiction and abuse is really hard to study is because pretty much every man in Western countries watches porn regularly. ED and relationship satisfaction are definitely increasing, and overuse of porn in young men is definitely a culprit. I know that NoFap is kind of an echo chamber, and even though all of us share similar issues and solutions, the large majority of the population still seems unaware. Despite this, the large amount of women that have confided in me the ED their very young partners experience is enough to signal to me PIED and porn abuse is a growing problem.

    However, the fact that people are still getting pregnant, having sex all the time, and living life while porn use remains far above 75% is telling that even though it's unhealthy, it doesn't affect everyone majorly. Just like alcohol, which is literally poison and causes physical damage to the body, most people can still use and have negligible effects.

    No one is perfectly fine from using porn, alcohol, or other substances. They all have a cost. However, they also have a benefit. For guys like us that are very addicted to porn, the costs of PIED, compulsive behavior, and waste of time/resources far outweigh the benefits, which often is just a few minutes of pleasure (often just a waste of time as well). However, for many people, the benefits of their porn use largely outweigh the costs, so they continue to use! Porn can help someone learn how to have sex, find new ways to please their partner, or just have some personal time. People say porn is like the Fast and Furious movies. If you're trying to learn about (sex/driving) or get the thrill of (really arousing sex/crazy driving) by constantly watching (porn/Fast and Furious movies), you're likely wasting a lot of time, a lot of money, and missing out on doing those things in real life (which would feel much better). HOWEVER, if you watch porn with the same frequency the average person watches a Fast and Furious movie, like 1-2 nights a year, you're probably ok. In fact, it'll probably be pretty fun!

    Some people just don't get addicted to porn, no matter how much they choose to watch. Most people who watch porn have signs of dopamine irregularities or more than average levels (attention disorders, depression, history of impulsive behavior). Whether the dopamine irregularities leads to porn addiction or is caused by it is still up for debate. Although I do envy the people who did not fall into the same addiction as me, I also see the signs of low motivation and productivity in them. My excess dopamine may make me more liable for addiction, but it also makes me a harder worker, focus more in intense situations, and pursue my goals much more enthusiastically. If you find yourself majorly hooked on porn, take note of the fact that if you are able to reboot correctly, rewire with normal relationships, and then turn your attention to other areas of your life (with all that extra dopamine in your brain), you are gonna find yourself much more eager, energetic, and successful than your peers.

    It's true that others can use porn and not fall into addiction, but don't loathe them. They are different people and will have different challenges in your life. Overcome your challenges, and use that wellspring of energy inside you to make your life and the lives of those around you better. You may be different from everyone else, but that makes you special. That makes you rare. That makes you valuable. Use that specialness you have inside yourself to change your life and live it to the fullest
     
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  13. skaterdrew

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    Thanks man you to.
     
  14. Furozima10

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    Nobody who watch porn is normal.

    Anyone who claims watching porn and that you find normal is Lying.

    Don't trust people, because they never tell the truth.

    Only trust what you see from your own eyes
     
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  15. kumarach

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    you see i do believe that watching porn is a choice and nothing to be judged.no doubt that it can become addictive in some cases,but the thing is that most of us,i.e a majority of young men/women in today's generation go through a lot more stress and tension that was ever existent in the past,with this aspect in mind you also need to consider the outlets.
    stress does find an outlet one way or another,it can be a hobby,any repetitive activity or anything that keeps you occupied while making you forget stress and tension and the worries of your life and the then present time.
    regarding porn.
    i do believe that watching porn is pretty normal and it's as much an outlet for energy as is running the difference being.....porn requires regulation,control and foresight,you need to pay attention as to when it is becoming addictive and when it is recreation.there is a very thin line which separates and addict with a connoisseur,not just for porn but for anything in this world,a such petty as washing hands can get addictive and hurt us.
    (In extreme cases obviously like..OCD and things.even being cautious with things can turn into OCD, I had an uncle who had a compulsive thought disorder(OCD-CTD) as to getting AIDS,he would stay away from sharp objects,a single cut would lead him to get 3 tests done in a span of a week or two just to conclude that he doesn't have AIDS.)
    if at all possible quit porn and indulge in something better,even cooking or sewing can be great tasks,they keep the brain neurons active and running.
    i won't judge porn,but i'd quote the nofap guideline on porn which says-
    YOU DON'T NEED PORN EVEN IF YOU BADLY WANT TO USE IT.
    it's true,work on something else,divert the pressure and tension into output rather than dissipation.
     
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  16. SelfControlIsTheGoal

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    The majority of men in the west watch porn, so in that sense there are normal people who watch porn. Some people have more addictive personality then others. I do believe that porn in the problem.
     

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