Facetime everynight.

You need to decide what it is you want.

If you want to beat PIED/ED the stimulation through FaceTime is definitely slowing you down.

If you want to be intimate with her, you can but run the risk of setting your progress back.

Read this next sentence carefully:

It is very unlikely that you will be able to be intimate with this girl without paying some kind of forfeit or cost.

By this I mean, it is going to be difficult to both be intimate and keep your progress. You’re effectively straddling the fence, flirting with your streak, attempting to have your cake and eat it.

There is no ‘right or wrong’ answer. Do what works best for you.

Let us know how it goes.

 

Rather than FaceTime, why not meet her physically?

 

I see
Well, i wish u success bro

 

We have here 2 separate situations with the same person, the first is the virtual estimulus that can be a problem to your journey and the second is the real life contact that i see as a good thing for your progress, doing the thing in real life can be good to help you differ the illusory estimulus from PMO and the real sex and intimacy with a person
The way to go is within you, anyway you choose you must weigh the beneffits and costs of the course of action

 

In my experience, being with someone coming off an ok streak made it much easier to abstain from porn. Before I knew it I hit over 3 months without it. I felt happy and confident.

If you opt to be intimate with her and you have “issues”, be as honest as you can without spilling you getting off to grannies on motorcycles. Idk… Tell her it might take you a while for your ding dong to go King Kong because he’s shy. In the meantime, your hands and mouth should work just fine

Meet up in person and if it goes well tell her you wound up liking seeing her more there than through the phone. That way you can transition into having your stimulation from her to the 3D realm and off the screen.

That being said, it sounds like a lot of fun and a great opportunity! Hopefully there’s more to be had than just the “stuff”.

 

So you don't want to facetime a real girl, but you don't want to meet her either because it'll "thwart" your progress? What progress exactly? If you're not masturbating to her nudes or anything else for that matter, everything else sounds pretty normal and I think the only real issue is that you think there is an issue with being turned on by a real attractive woman. If you're worried about semen retention, its an esoteric topic. Most of the benefits are anecdotal right now and the science just doesn't really know much conclusively about how it affects personality, productivity, mood, muscle growth etc. Lack of evidence doesn't mean evidence won't be discovered one day or that its just placebo but I'd be careful about making big life decisions based on something that may or may not be a real thing. With that being said there is no evidence its bad either so feel free to experiment if you're really that curious. Also, I feel like your perception of facetime is a bit distorted. Its probably the most personal way to talk to someone besides actually being there physically with them as you get to talk and see their face. You would not physically be with a partner 24/7 anyways(or that would cause other issues) so I don't really see the issue here except how you see facetime in your head. Calling and texting aren't much different.

Nofap doesn't mean you deny the fact that you're a man and see erections and arousal as evil or bad. Also, morning wood is a sign of good erectile health, not the other way around. As for the whole dopamine regulation thing, oxytocin is also a hormone that releases when talking to people. There's nothing wrong with talking to someone and feeling good talking to them. Doing nofap but trying to avoid anything that could release dopamine or make you feel good defeats the entire purpose of addiction recovery which is to actually enjoy life and be able to do the things you once struggled with, like forming connections with women in this case. Are you just gonna not do anything too exciting until you feel you're ready? I think you're missing the forest for the trees and focusing more on doing nofap right than the overall goal of this whole thing in the first place which is to live a better life ultimately. This is all just my opinion obviously and at the end of the day its up to you to reflect on why you're actually doing this and whether or not this actually violates your values and goals or if you just feel like you're supposed to not like this because its the sentiment the community tends to echo.

TLDR cause I realize this is a lot: I think you're fine and have a good opportunity as long as you're not using porn or masturbation to satisfy these feelings(which are perfectly normal, hormonal feelings). Facetime is fine imo especially if she actually wants to meet in person, facetime is just a form of communication like calling or texting which you'd have to do at some point anyways. Erectile arousal is fine, it's literally proof you can get hard without porn. I think everything you described is healthy and normal and the only issue is your perception of these things.

 

Yes, so mind the gains and loses and if the score is positive go for it!