The Lord of the Rings Challenge

You will my brother, you will . And beyond!!!

 

sorry to hear that bro, you were doing so well . and you could still do well if you don´t binge, hang in there my brother, we´re with you!!!

as for the slip, you know the drill, learn and improve . Let´s go!!!!

 

i think that can happen - a minor bump in motivation or a less productive day - sometimes we need to just rest and have fun. as long as that doesn´t become a pattern, i don´t think it´s a problem

 

lot´s of them. take note

energy boosters: movement (physical exercise), meditation, sun, nature, water, power breathing (wim hof), cold showers, music, reading, focus on one´s life - goals and hobbies, sports, friends, proper sleep, eat in moderation, dress well, take care of your body, house, etc.

energy depleters: porn, porn subs, masturbation, junk food, sugar, alcohol, white bread, bad sleep, overeating, television, videogames, focus on other people´s life, gossips, social media, negative emotions, laziness (yes, doing nothing makes you even more tired ), snooze button on the alarm clock, don´t care about yourself or your environment.


you can easily cultivate the "boosters" with proper discipline and planning. to avoid all the "depleters" is much harder, and sometimes can be counterintuitive. the idea is to leave the depleters for last (television, videogames, etc), after a day with multiple boosters

 

Checking in brave Warriors!!!

Lot´s of slips today among the Fellowship. Should we consider this a "weekend slip pattern"?

i myself was tempted last night, i was watching a movie that i had choosen myself, a movie that may contain triggers, but i choose it anyway. i really wanted to see the movie, but i was doubting if a small part of me was fishing. so when the first triggers entered (ladies in small clothing) my eyes were fixed on the screen. then i realize i was fishing. 95% of me was wanting to see the movie, and 5% of me was fishing, hoping to stumble across "something". so when the movie was over, i was with urges and thinking "man, this is gonna be a hell night".

so i sit in meditation for a while, the urges reduced, and got into bed, and fall asleep . victory!!

an important thing, that i think most people here already know, but for the newbies this is important: it´s crucial to not feed lust in the mind. it´s the thoughts that continue the urges after the trigger is gone. so watch your mind, don´t indulge in sexual thoughts, if they appear let them pass on, or else they will fuel the urges and make the situation even more difficult. remember: the reboot must also happen in a mental level.


Checking out brave Warriors!! Have a great Sunday with sun and water


Here´s another important excerpt from "your brain on porn", page 64.

"Research reveals that erections require adequate dopamine in the reward circuit[147] and the
male sexual centres of the brain.[148] Not long ago, Italian researchers scanned the brains of guys
with ‘psychogenic ED’ (as opposed to ‘organic ED’, which arises from issues below the belt). Their
scans revealed atrophy of the grey matter in the brain's reward centre (nucleus accumbens) and the
sexual centres of the hypothalamus.[149] Loss of grey matter equates with loss of nerve cell branches
and connections with other nerve cells. Here, this translates into reduced dopamine signalling
(reduced arousal).

It's like your 8-cylinder engine is now sputtering along on only 3 cylinders.

The study is evidence that psychogenic ED is not always caused by an individual's state of mind
at a particular moment. It can be a consequence of changes to the reward circuitry that result in
persistently reduced dopamine signalling. This could help explain porn-induced sexual dysfunctions,
such as erectile dysfunction, delayed ejaculation and inability to climax at all during intercourse –
and why such symptoms generally require weeks or months to reverse."