Girlfriend went away and now I'm back in flatline

Are you "back in the flatline" or just feeling shitty for the time being since your girlfriend is gone?

 

Honestly I'd say just wait a little while and carry on as normal. Not being hard for a few days won't harm you

 

Honestly why do you need a libido if your girlfriend is not around? You're committing no crime.

 

Friend you need sexual skins to be horny and not horny every moment

 

Friend I think orgasm if the girlfriend brought you back to the flat line not that she went Gray spoke to the fact that he said that orgasms return to the flat line Give yourself more time dude not rush to sex

 

חבר אני חושב שאורגזמה אם החברה החזירה אותך לקו השטוח לא שהיא הלכה גריי דיבר על זה שהוא אמר שאורגזמות חוזרות לקו השטוח תן לעצמך עוד זמן אחי אל תמהר לסקס

 

Haha this is pretty normal dude. Your brain lost its source of arousal, so it's not getting aroused! Perfectly fine, it will come back when she comes back. Take this time to focus on your work and relax, you'll be up and running as soon as she's back

 

Feeling aroused and thinking about sex only when your partner is around absolutely falls under the category of "normal libido"! Porn and society program us to think that men should be horndogs that think about sex all the time and are ready for sex every second of the day. That is just totally false haha, everyone has different levels of libido, but only getting aroused when your partner around is totally fine haha.

I can see you are 28, so is it possible porn abuse hampered your libido a little bit? Absolutely. Remember that recovery happens gradually over a period of several years, not months or weeks; you seem healthy to me already, but getting back to 100% peak performance can take years.

I used to be exactly the same when I was dating my first girlfriend after my first reboot; I would only get aroused around her, didn't think about sex or get erections any other time. Once we broke up and I started having sex with multiple women though, I started getting aroused by strangers again. Our brains were just conditioned to find arousal from our girlfriends lol; nothing wrong with that, but you either gotta teach your brain every girl is arousing or just let the recovery happen over time. Both are totally fine, don't rush it, you don't need to be getting horny for every girl you see to be "normal".

Morning woods are nice, but not having them doesn't mean you're not recovered, especially at your age. Focus more on your performance and satisfaction with your partner, not some of these secondary symptoms. Connection and intimacy is the goal, not tentpoles in the morning haha

 

It's a sign of recovery for sure, but not having morning woods does not mean that you're not recovered; you can still be recovered, maybe even fully so, without getting morning woods. There were months where I would not get morning woods but i'd still be able to have sex multiple times a day several times a week

 

Your sex drive probably work best where there is intimacy. No significant other= No libido
Some dudes are this way and some are not.