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The REAL rewiring… (escorts/porn)

Discussion in 'Off-topic Discussion' started by redskins2015, Dec 16, 2021.

  1. Dec 16, 2021 #1
    redskins2015

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    So I’m currently on a 45 day PMO streak…but I am someone dealing with an addiction to not only Porn, but also the feeling and act of browsing through escort sites and things of that nature. Not proud at all and difficult to even make a post about it, but it’s the truth. As that is an addiction I’m trying to overcome in itself…I read some other posts talking about just the dopamine rush we get from browsing those sites affects our rewiring and our relationship we have to sex, a healthy one at that. Not to mention the ethical reasons behind it, and how it will ruin the way your brain will view women and the ability to form a true companionship with a women.

    Thank you so much doe this community, without it, it’s a lonely world with this addiction.

    Looking to go hard mode now, and resetting my counter even though I technically haven’t PMO’d for 45 days…so I feel the act of browsing those escort sites and reading forums related to that act is a form of P for my brain, and something I wish to change in my life for the better.

    Any advice or input from anyone on this?
     
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    Just my opinion, but I think you are on the right path. I was somewhat similar to you that when I stopped watching porn videos, paying for cam sites and PMOing, I found myself visiting escort sites to look at the pictures and going into adult chat rooms. I realized that this was still feeding my addiction so I now classify those sites as porn and do not visit them anymore. For me the biggest thing to stop visiting those sites was to simply do something else when the thought of visiting those sites would enter my mind. I would clean something in the house, read a book, do a quick 5-10 minute workout session, it was really just do something to distract your mind and get away from all screens and the urge to view those sites will go away. that is what worked for me.
     
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  3. Dec 16, 2021 #3
    redskins2015

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    Thank you bro! Great advice…I will try that!
     
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  4. Dec 16, 2021 #4
    black.and.green

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    It sound like you're making the right decision. P will be different for different people.
     
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  5. Dec 16, 2021 #5
    Reborn16

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    I admit this is a problem for me too. Many times I've justified things like browsing personal ads, thinking "it's not explicit videos so it doesn't count."

    While that may be technically true, it certainly seems to spike dopamine, maybe as it's a cue that the reward of sex is just around the corner. And then there's novelty. "I wonder if the same ads are there, or there's something new?"

    You're right it can slowly affect how we pair bond too. There's a lot of time and effort that goes into finding a compatible partner, and I guess it starts when we're looking after ourselves and living a fulfilling lifestyle.

    A lot of that process can take years, depending on where we start from. Browsing on escort ads is not the worst, but it still serves as a temporary escape from reality, while also nagging the brain to expect a sexual outlet to be imminent.

    Taking away all our known comforts in this area of life is the quickest way to recover. Best of luck with your new strategy!
     
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  6. Dec 17, 2021 #6
    redskins2015

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    Same to you! It’s all about accelerating ourselves to recovery, and we only cheat OURSELVES when we make justifications. Another aspect to focus on is working on our own mental issues, as anxiety, stress, and depression can be a major part of performance issues and overcoming our addiction. Meditation is a STRONG tool in helping with that…in addition, what we do to OTHERS, we do to ourselves…so remember to not be judgemental of others, and we will find ourselves being less judgemental to ourselves…forgive others, so we can forgive ourselves…when one has performance anxiety, they tend to be “ashamed” and NOT forgive themselves at the core…so practice forgiving others throughout ur day to day life, even when u don’t agree with their words/behaviors…and you will soon learn to forgive yourself when things don’t go as planned…all this will only help your mental health in the long run, which will thus help your recovery as well…as PIED is equally as mental as it is physical. Take care
     
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