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Your reason why you are alone

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by depeche69, Dec 23, 2021.

  1. depeche69

    depeche69 Fapstronaut

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    Hi,

    what answer do you give at work, family or in general, if somebody asks you, why are you single?

    My answers so far:
    • I'm failing to hit on attractive women and don't want to lower my standards
    • Single life has to many comfort
    • The right women didn't appear so far
     
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  2. I say I'm working on myself, I can't love someone else if I am incapable of loving myself, why put someone you want to love through storms like that, the relationship might sink, women usually agree with me when I say this. I obviously haven't taped into a lot of my problems yet.
     
  3. DeeJ4y

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    It is what it is. Jk but I have focused on my self and gotten over my past relationships. I have also cured my traumas and learned to accept life. I have also gotten to know some girls but they did not feel like a good fit because of ideologies.

    Also the pandemic makes it easier to justify not approaching complete strangers.

    And I do not go to bars etc, I dont want a girl who drinks/ parties a lot.

    Lots of excuses I guess, but for as long as I accept my situation I do not plan to change my opinions just to have a relationship.
     
  4. lgustavoms

    lgustavoms Fapstronaut

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    This hit home.
     
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  5. I think these are my reasons for why I am alone.
    1. I am trying to strengthen my faith in the Holy Trinity.
    2. I am horrendously shy around women.
    3. Pandemic is making it hard to socialize with anyone other than outside the internet.
     
  6. Do you owe people an explanation about how you choose to live?
     
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  7. depeche69

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    How would you handle this, when you are ask this question?
    This question is asked in common. I don't like it, because you reveal that you have a desire and you are not able to fulfill it.
    I think giving an answer is the best way.
    Not answering, hiding or rude answer is a sign of insecurity.
     
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  8. KKS123

    KKS123 Fapstronaut

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    This ^
     
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  9. No man, that isn't how it works. Addicts have problems with personal boundaries.

    An addict tries to appease everybody because of fear.

    In recovery, that habit must end.

    You need to live in fear and uncertainty if you will recover.
     
  10. Ghost79

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    No woman wants me and I tried speed dating events, date sites, approaching women on streets... I am cursed to be alone in this world.
     
  11. silex_jedi

    silex_jedi Fapstronaut

    hypotheses, i am not sure. i don't know if i want to know for sure. i should.
    1. people can't rely on me,
    2. they say i can't make decisions,
    3. i am a bit susceptible,
    4. i am fake around people,
    5. i have told i would do things did i did not end up doing,
    6. i have been arrogant,
    7. i have a hard time listening to people i consider boring, even though i know for sure i can learn anything from ANYBODY,
    8. i often feel like i should not be where i am,
    9. for the time being i hate myself,
    10. i am like a boat left adrift in the storm.
     
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  12. silex_jedi

    silex_jedi Fapstronaut

    i have tried dating someone with EDS last year, a girl.

    she is the reason i am here on this forum. i started to precipitate into love, and she quickly pulled back, and i was left with my chaotic binary emotions of love and sadness... she does suffer a lot. i am glad she set the limit. BUT,
    i can't get to even say hello to her as a human being even though my feelings are gone now.
     
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  13. depeche69

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    Well i am asked this question often at work or at family.
    Because in our society your worth as a men depends on how much success you have at women. If you confess that you are single, because the women don't want you, you are looked as a loser or as a creep.

    I must confess, that this social stigma is hurting me more, than being alone in general. That's why i am looking for good answer to deal this situation with convidence.
     
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  14. im_done

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    Me?
    - My appearance. I look objectively masculine, but not in the aesthetically pleasing sense. I scare people. But I'm getting rid of my glasses, straightening my teeth, and growing out my hair.
    - My car broke down and so did my dating privileges. I refuse to be the bum that has kids or an SO but with no capital of my own.
    - Dating is exhausting and I would rather by a pro/escort.
    - Someone above said single life provides too many comforts and I agree.
     
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  15. depeche69

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  16. Nah. All you need to do is rebuild through a hard mode reboot.

    If you suffer through it, the rest of life takes care of itself.
     
  17. If you are struggling to get a girl, you are struggling for the wrong things.

    Struggle to get a hard mode reboot and build up your career or income.

    Get in shape through diet and exercise. Quit video games.

    If you struggle in the hard mode reboot, all these things start to happen for you.

    The woman problem solves itself after that.

    You are worrying and upset about things that won't be a problem later.
     
  18. Ghost79

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    I don't think it would help much with my problem. Can clarify why you think that?
     
  19. silex_jedi

    silex_jedi Fapstronaut

    it was for me. off topic conversation sorry.
     
  20. im_done

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    Lol I love prequel memes.
    Knowing where I stood in life helped me the most. Monsters, demons, and brutes don't get fairytale endings. The sooner I realized that, the sooner I found other avenues to get through life.
     
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