The Lord of the Rings Challenge

Alright! day 4! let's do this!

 

I wish it was that easy. Easier said than done. Especially at night when it's hard to keep your brain occupied.

 

Check in day 99
One day to get going

 

Lucky dog.

 

Day 2!
Working out today and ate healthy and took a cold shower. Keeping strongh!

 

Probably the best idea - thanks brother

 

Hey @Slider8, I think we chatted about this last year. We're here to support each other. Let's keep our eye on the ball, rather than criticising the person. Agree it takes years to clear your mind, but if you are refusing PMO in your dreams, like @Kairose is, then surely this is a very good sign that your subconscious is on the right track, and the decision to quit is strong.

On packing in cigarettes, if you are still having urges, then I recommend reading Allen Carr (I read his book over a 3 month period, 23 years ago, and haven't even had one urge to smoke a cigarette since).
Thanks as always for all the comments, the vast majority of them, as I've said before, are very helpful, so thank you

 

Checking in. I'm feeling good. Lots of hope built up inside of me. Been studying 4hrs a day, kinda hard for me to get up to speed on my studies but it will get better. Had some flashes of women in my mind but it went away quickly.
As aways...

Strenght & Honor

 

Day 5

I've started praying today, still need to meditate, and plan to head to the gym soon. I slept a ton last night, which felt great, and even though it through a wrench in my schedule for today, I'm taking it as a "win."

After a bad binge last month, feels good to be well rested and semi-focused. Plus, the absence of physical symptoms of excessive masturbation that I won't go into .

They journey is hard, so I am trying to break it down into a day at a time, then one task at a time.

Forward!

 

After 5 years on NoFap (on and off), I almost can’t believe I’ve just reached a 90 days hard mode streak for the first time ever.
I’m now a grey wizard.
Feeling grateful
To everyone out there, keep working for your goals, and never give up, because ITS POSSIBLE!

 

Checking in friends:
Cold Shower - Not yet
Exercise - Walk
Reflections - Yes
Procrastination - Small bit but I also did the work
Vanity - Tempted to be vain on a zoom call with work as a female colleague (married) started flirting - stopped myself but the buzz was still there - this is poison
Excuses - again sneaking sense of entitlement before reminding myself of the suffering in this world especially in the developing world, and remembered the first noble truth
Mindful Breathing - Yes
Sleep Pattern - Healthy Early to Bed & Early to Rise
Mindful Eating - Yes & I cooked today first time in ages
Personal values - I am not a perv, I am a child of God, and with God's grace I will reclaim my birthright
Freedom Fight - No
Gollum - have to travel together on this one. He is not strong right now as the blessings of Christmas rain down, but there are darker days ahead where he will appear again

 

Yeah bro it's good if your daily attitude stays with you whether you are awake or asleep, that feels good . For me it wasn't Allen Carr but just the right timing -one day two packs of cigarettes and nothing for the next 8 years not really sure what had happened. Lucky you 3 months and no urges for 23 years ! But as you know last year many couldn't get even close to the results of your 3 months. Could you share with us the way you used Allen Carr's method with such an excellent result?

 

Well done bro ! Keep up the good work !

 

Day 52 checking in. Ate twice in the 8 hours window.Meditated, prayed, studied and walked a bit. Feeling quite good although managed to get overwhelmed with choices and procrastinated on(i mean I haven't done them at all )important tasks.I suspect that in life we often help only those whom we like or have a pity on which makes us rather partial.

 

There was a hack of this book on this forum last year, (or was it the year before?). Some people used it to kick the PMO habit, but I am not convinced it can work the same, because the central tenet of Allen Carr is that nicotine addiction provides zero benefits or pleasure beyond silencing the nicotine withdrawl pangs. IMO the same cannot be applied to PMO, as the dopamine released does provide a superficial physical and psychological pain killer for a short period of time (while also deepening the suffering in our souls) and PMO addiction is an intimacy disorder driven by a deep fear of abandonment, lack of sincere love, a yearning for God, etc... rather than a purely physical addiction.

If we are talking about smoking alone, then Allen Carr's book is like magic when you follow his rules to the letter:
1. Do not quit until you finish reading the book (anyone I know who failed did so because, in a fit of zealous fervour, they quit before they finished the book, and so were back smoking later)
However, if you have already stopped then, he does not recommend that you start again, but rather stay the course but still make sure you finish the book
2. Read the book slowly and carefully, really reflecting on each point made and allowing its reality slowly dawn on your mind bit by bit (hence 3 months of reading)
3. Plan a date to give up in the future when it is not going to be difficult e.g. do not plan on giving cigarettes up when you know there will be lots of parties etc...
4. Really really really celebrate the fact that you have given up and that you are no longer a smoker, you are no longer a fool, you are free and you are free forever

 

Strength & Honour

 

@JEBF I can't believe that General Maximus Decimus Meridius struggles at anything. He rather takes everything on the chin.

 

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