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The Lord of the Rings Challenge

Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by RiseToGreatness, Sep 22, 2019.

Should the Thread Title be extended?

Poll closed Jun 21, 2020.
  1. No, leave like that: "The Lord of the Rings Challenge"

    18 vote(s)
    54.5%
  2. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Fellowship of Nofap"

    15 vote(s)
    45.5%
  3. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: Rising Fellowship of Eärendil"

    0 vote(s)
    0.0%
  4. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Journey to Mount Doom"

    5 vote(s)
    15.2%
  5. Yes. "The Lord of the Rings Challenge: The Quest of the Ring-bearer"

    6 vote(s)
    18.2%
Multiple votes are allowed.
  1. RiseToGreatness

    RiseToGreatness Fapstronaut

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    Checking in brave Warriors! :)

    I´m doing well today, my social anxiety is dropping and i can look people better in the eye, woman are starting to seem more atractive and less scary :D

    You know, i decided to refrain from instagram alltogether. I notice that it became too much for me to deal with all the networks (facebook, instagram, messenger, whatzapp...). i ended up two days in a row going late to bed and nervous. Awful

    i want to focus on my life, not other people´s life. so i will disconnect from instagram and just do a post once in a while, maybe one per week, just to please the director´s board. but honestly i think it´s pointless, i have very little followers, most people don´t give a shit about commercials, so my posts doesn´t create that much impact.

    plus, instagram is plagued with triggers, so i don´t like being there at all.

    Another 2 cents of reflection ;).

    Have a great day Fellowship!! Checking out :)
     
  2. IveWastedMyTime

    IveWastedMyTime Fapstronaut

    Hell this day ..it was horrible. I feel the devil is right behind my back.
    Funny thing is: The relapse happened just because I installed 4 Browser filters to be sure it will be rly hard to view any site - but then my mind tricked me by thinking "You need to try out if the programms work well and optimize if needed haha" [well that bs worked quite well -lol] I relapsed another time at 13 pm (so tomorrow will only count as day 1 after its done ) Negative Emotions and Thoughts came as if the relapse created Sauron who called me. Not only I felt weak but also anxious and down - feeling of loneliness wasnt that huge the last 7 days.. and after I thought and wrote the whole day about what I wanna change/what made me relapse/what Ive learned from that - Im too tired to list it all now. I was on a struggle the whole day. Did some meditation to adress all the feelings. My worst problem seems to be the failure in general. Thats why it is that hard for me to relapse (its hard for evryone I know). But it feels like all my brain links for all my "previous failures" arose and suddenly punch me hard on top of the failure "relapse". Thoughts of relationships I fucked up (even if I know it wasnt only my fault) and the overall feelin' that I failed in life (even if that is not true). It felt like all I reached so far was bullshit.
    Then I started to cry after I realized what my mind was doing to me. Damn its important that I fix that.
    I remembered all my achievements and what I already did well in life. I rly wanna become that guy who always is there for himself and his own best friend.
    For the next possible relapse I need some hell of a preparation plan. I dont want to fall that deep anymore. I dont know why - but it never was that huge before. Maybe its because I rly rly wanted to quit and still want it and now I know so much more.

    Whatever guys Im so glad that I have this opportunity - that Im not alone with this bullshit and anyhow strong enough to write about this so honestly.

    If you feel urges ... just remember me and how good I felt before the relapse...
    And how bad I feel today after it.
    Stay strong!
     
    Last edited: Jan 5, 2022
  3. LiveLifeInABetterWay

    LiveLifeInABetterWay Fapstronaut

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    Wow what a progressive day. I have accomplished to stay away from my addiction to fapp for 1 week in 2 hours of time. One week ago I signed in and even heart about NoFap for the first time in my life. So I did not know why I always wanted to quit M. P was never a problem only some stimulated pictures of sexy men. During the last 13 years I wanted to quit (if I wanted) because I thought it is a sinfull desire. But I never realized that this desire destroys your energy, some friendships and even much more.

    Keep it up volks. I have been very encouraged by your postings. I am glad to know that I am not alone with this struggles.

    Greetings from Switzerland
    J
     
  4. Don80

    Don80 Fapstronaut

    @IveWastedMyTime. Get up, man. Even if you feel like a failure, you're not. I suppose only good people come to this forum. Those who have feelings. Macho type guys who only drink beer and sleep around and seem to find everything easy just because they were born good-looking are not sitting on couches watching telly or partying. However, the world populated by the latter would be like Mad Max world.

    Another thing, I'm just 33 hours after my relapse. So you're not alone.

    Finally, after years relapsing and getting up like a blind man without any guidance. I realized that I've never wasted a day after a relapse. Remorse was my fuel to be a better man. I did quite a lot of things afterwards clearing my to-do lists almost 100%. Yet, I didn't have the right mindset to quit PMO altogether. I felt alone. Now it's different. I'm so grateful somebody created this forum and there are a lot of success stories who are still here supporting let's say nofap rookies like me.
     
  5. IveWastedMyTime

    IveWastedMyTime Fapstronaut

    Thx for your words brother! <3
     
  6. soldier407

    soldier407 Fapstronaut

    Hey, thanks for your reply. I've made some progress while offline. Relapse today again. I now know that existence as Uruk-Hai is better than Nazgul.
     
  7. Slider8

    Slider8 Fapstronaut

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    Checking in day 53. Had quite a workout in the morning and probably overdone it for i didn't feel good after it. Prayed and managed to stop eating in good time with God's help, done quite a bit of self-studies which is quite a breakthrough for me and haven't been very productive in other areas.Sometimes when we pray we receive the answer immediately while hearing what we speak and it feels fabulous!
    May we all have a peace of walking in clean consciousness !:)
     
  8. rotten_tomato

    rotten_tomato Fapstronaut

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  9. belio123

    belio123 Fapstronaut

  10. Mathman1994

    Mathman1994 Fapstronaut

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    Day 0 - Hour 16.5 - Nazgûl

    I made it nearly two days and then PMO'd twice last night. I wish I fought it more, meditated, read my Bible, or even went to sleep until the urges passed. It all started with a therapy appointment where I reminisced about my schizo-affective delusions. I am depressed right now, and haven't left my apartment in two days. I will go to campus tomorrow so that I can spend my day outside of my home where the loneliness is getting to me. Honestly the depression started yesterday when I was up until 2AM the night before sorting my Yugioh cards and when I went to sleep I did not take my night meds so I tossed and turned all night and then did not get up until 10AM. Then I laid back down twice and then I had therapy and immediately after I PMO'd and then last night I PMO'd again out of frustration with an app, that I use for recovery, not working. I am trying to figure out if I can MO non-compulsively, but that would mean leaving these challenges, and I like the camaraderie of these challenges, and I have very few alternatives to recovery. I know that my main issue is P and that MO is something I can generally do in moderation. The thing is, I feel so great and powerful when I resist any sexual urge successfully, but I know I would be 1.5 weeks no P had I just MO'd the last couple times, and so I am stuck wondering whether I need to quit the challenges for now to see figure out my own sexuality, or if I can truly and successfully live a hard mode life. I know what most of you all would say, it is just that my treatment team thinks that MO can be healthy, and the NoFap forums tend to take a more rigid view on that. I guess what I am saying is I don't know the right answer. My therapist did say, yesterday, that masturbation is a personal choice, and whether one does it or not is neither healthy nor unhealthy. However, he thinks I have an unhealthy relationship with my own sexuality, and that if it comes down to MOing to P or just MOing to fantasy, I should MO to fantasy. If I can successfully manage both, then I need not do either. However, I am not sure of the best way to develop a healthy sexuality. My pornography use started months before I ever masturbated, and so MO has always been tied to P, however for a two year period, I gave up P and just MO'd, but my mom made me feel really shitty about it, making antagonizing comments about how I "got off to people being in the house". That was not the case, but it led to me feeling terribly about myself and then after that two to three year no P period, I started using again, and I have been using consistently since, with a 90 day period in 2018 where I did not MO to P and 60 of those days not MO period. When I first joined this challenge, I made it 31 days no P or MO and I felt great. I just want to figure myself out, and I love reading everyone's updates, but I am not sure that the challenges are good for me at the moment. I say that because if I MO, even once or twice in a week, I feel like I have failed you all, and that ultimately leads to me viewing P or P-subs, and MOing immediately afterward. I love you all, but I think that until I can reach a point where I do not MO for myself and not because others say it is bad, I don't know that I can healthily be on these challenges. It is a hardline I suppose, but I feel like a failure every time I come on here saying "Day 0 - Nazgûl" and I don't think it is fair to you all to have to hear me constantly saying that too. It may be demotivating to see someone "not trying", I know it is for me when I cannot successfully make it a week or two without MO. So I think this is goodbye for now. However, if I make it to Elf status, I may try again, but until that point, I have to figure out who I am with or without P and MO.

    Good luck everyone, may our paths cross again in 30 days.

    Best,
    Mathman1994
     
  11. Onan the Barbarian

    Onan the Barbarian Fapstronaut

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    Day 0

    Slipped up this morning, so I'm back to Nazgul for now.

    I stayed up too late, drank slightly too much, and got a little stressed this morning in an interaction with my parents. Should have seen it coming. Back on the horse.
     
  12. JEBF

    JEBF Fapstronaut

    Checking in.

    These five days have been great for me. I'm maintaining my routine with ease, working out nice, studying well and have been able to cut some negative things that was bothering my progress. I'm living one day at a time and it is working.
    As always...

    Strenght & Honor!
     
  13. JEBF

    JEBF Fapstronaut

    You gotta honor ol' Arnold brother, get your mindset right, you got this!
     
  14. LuckyMan

    LuckyMan Fapstronaut

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    Day 58
    I should just put this in my signature lol. "Checking in. I am too tired to think clearly, better get offline."
    Have a great day, ring-bearers!
     
  15. MS PBH

    MS PBH Fapstronaut

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  16. nerdy_owl

    nerdy_owl Fapstronaut

    Day 3!
    Sick but energies, motivated to continue strongh!
     
  17. Talz

    Talz Fapstronaut

  18. Day 7 complete! Only one more day of being a mean, filthy, low-bred Orc.

    @IveWastedMyTime Sorry to learn about your reset. You're not a failure, you hear me? Welcome to NoFap. We know you're not perfect, but we're glad to see you, because your presence here means you're working to fix yourself and that alone is enough to make you successful. I'm going to say something a little weird: it's good to have blockers, but you CANNOT rely on your blockers. If you see them as an obstacle, something that can be circumvented, then you're subconsciouly reinforcing the impression in your brain that PMO is a good thing of which you're being deprived. Blockers are safety nets, not puzzles to be solved. Leave the thing alone and forget it's there; it will do its job without you. Funny as it sounds, in my experience blockers become more effective the less you're aware of them, because as long as the PMO blocker is on your mind, so is PMO.
     
  19. PeaceOnEarth108

    PeaceOnEarth108 Fapstronaut

    7 days

    Very wise words

    Sorry to hear that @Mathman1994 , we'll miss you. I guess most of us, including Alex Rhodes who created NoFap, agree that MO is not bad and we should not feel ashamed of it. And your mom causes quite some damage when she says something like that. But sad truth is that temporary abstinence (no M and best also no O) is helpful to overcome P addiction.
     
    Last edited: Jan 6, 2022
  20. Don80

    Don80 Fapstronaut

    DAY ZERO. Nazgul

    Sensei @Slider8 There's a lot of wisdome in this quote.

    ''So, I figured it out, why hot dogs come in packages of ten and hot dog buns come in packages of eight. See, the thing is, life doesn't always work out according to plan so be happy with what you've got, because you can always get a hot dog. ''

    @Onan the Barbarian, I also saw that coming and after your post I began to connect the dots with alcohol. Nah! It can't be alcohol to blame.

    For some time a thought to quit this challenge snuck up on me. I figured it's the addicted brain trying to keep rooted to the spot. The worst enemy is inside. Another PMO trick.
     
    Last edited: Jan 6, 2022

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