Your reason why you are alone

Yes you can improve but you must be willing to suffer.

Trust in the process, put in the work.

The best thing that a guy can do for himself is to forget all the old
information and ideas, they don't help anymore.

You have to do this according to other people's ways.

You have to make the decision that your thinking is bad.

All of our thinking is bad, as addicts.

We thrashed our brains over and over with dopamine.

You think that doesn't come with a cost?

So the solution is to realize that like an injured person, you need recovery.

The injured person goes to the doctor, and does what the doctor says.

Likewise, the people here are telling you that you need a hard mode reboot.

This site, these people and these resources are your cure.

 

Yes because when you are in a hard mode reboot, you are going to suffer.

It's healthy suffering. Your brain is healing.

In this process, everything you need to succeed is going to be there.

Confidence, improved fitness, improved intelligence, discipline...

I mean, there are just so many benefits. Maybe hundreds or more.

Your main problem is your self-esteem.

Because of the discipline you build in the hard mode reboot, you will have
tangible milestones of achievement.

To have confidence, you must have tangible achievement.

But you have to work and suffer for these things.

You'll do it.

I did it, man did it turn me around!

Better than the Hokey Pokey...

 

Oh by the way to answer your meme, I have achieved an intimidating aura by...
- Having dark skin
- Being a larger than average person
- Not shaving
- Having a neanderthalic brow ridge
- Mainting a neutral expression
- Having misaligned teeth that appear shark-like
(Others have made this observation, not me)
- Staying silent
- Not receptive to communication unless I have to or want to

Study this, Padawan, and you too will be seen as a menace.

 

Im just a wreck inside. It shows when in relationships, other ppl do not have any idea. Its possibly caused by childhood trauma, lots of beating and agression at my home took place.

I can get a woman..but I cant keep em. Max one year.. so its a cycle of loneliness..

Im also alternative, dont enjoy living classic 9/5 mortgage life. Im also scared of having kids. And Im too used to live single, so even idea of living with someone on a daily basis gives me anxiety...

 

The fuck is this shit? Women ain't stars to appear. LOOK FOR RIGHT PERSON WITHIN YOURSELF and you will attract the right one. Even tho... There is no RIGHT one. Cause everyone wants to find the right one but nobody wants to BE the right one. Smh.

 

ADHD , unemployed, long-term hermit maybe 10 years .

Been in and out of work for the past 3 .
Drifted apart from big group of friends 6-12 years. Made new friends in job 3 years .

Left work and don't stretch myself socially . Been years now. Besides any work taken on no social life outside of a job been that way for about 8 of 10 years .

Habits are hard to break. And the concept of meeting new people or trying to isn't a bit motivation of mine . I had a big group of freinds which took years of socialising . When we all moved on with our lives and i moved halfway across the country I was quite content to do my own thing , a few periodic blips with a couple women but kept was short lived i would be more than likely moving again. Always moving . Financial circumstances or employment circumstances. Over the years never settled .

Glad to be moving for the final time in a matter of months and settle . Looking forward to that .

Longstory short its complicated and it's just me

And let's be honest you don't meet people in the grocery store or filling station .

Pretty much just live my life doing my thing . But at the same time don't stretch myself too far and for good reason

 

You shuold learn to lead this boat , you can learn , all the people unlike and poor are in a boat , you can be the captain of your boat ,bye

 

that's the point of me being here.

 

Exactly, so if someone works remotely and goes outside only to buy grocery then there is no way to get friends.

 

(Bottom to top) There is no right woman, the game is played in comfort and you shouldn't lower your standards. My problem is that I'm socially anxious and shy, which I feel is far worse than being single and don't exactly know what to do about it or where to start.

 

Dude. Forget all that dating coach crap. Build out your career and income. Then one day, there is going to be a girl. You will just be yourself, and she's going to accept you.

Believe in the process. Put in this work. Then you will get a stinking woman already!

 

I don't really want a stinking woman, I'm only attracted to clean ones.

 

The answer is easy. Marriage is now expensive. Haha, or some women are not white, the egg of marriage or raising children, they just want money

 

I'm alone simply because that is the situation of my life at this moment. It's not a conscious choice. I'm not actively looking, but neither do I feel like I can't or won't eventually find someone. I'm in the "it'll happen when it happens" camp. I'm alone but not lonely, I'm a happy guy who happens not to be in a relationship for now.

 

You must reconcile yourself and be satisfied with yourself in order to strengthen yourself

 

I think it's a combination of:

• Lack of confidence. I don't think I lack confidence generally, but when it comes to romantic matters, it all goes out the window. I feel way out of my depth.
• Being overly analytical. When there's someone I like, I obsess over every little thing I do and say. It's like there's a magical formula that I'm trying to get just right. When I say something stupid (or, at least, think I do), it eats away at me.
• Giving up. I've been told I give up too easy. I don't understand the whole "hard to get" game and I refuse to play it. If I get rejected or I'm getting the sense someone isn't into me, I'm out. There's a fine line between persistence and harassment and I don't want to find out where one ends and the other begins.
• I'm either oblivious (which is likely) or girls just aren't into me. I can count on one hand the number of times I picked up on a girl being attracted to me. It's a total shot in the dark almost every time.
• Introversion. This isn't detrimental, but it doesn't help. I'm drawn to solitude and being in social situations for too long drains my battery. Obviously that isn't ideal for meeting people.
• Cold feet. There have been times when I could have dated someone, but I back out at the last minute because I realize I don't like them enough to date them.

This is definitely a big weakness for me. It's pretty frustrating. I will say that being 90 days into a streak made me feel more ready to date than I have in my entire life. I need to get back there...