What is your best Argument for „I need porn, because I otherwise would cheat on my wife?“

I find that entire post kinda confusing. You need an argument to not cheat on your wife? If you seriously think you can't stay loyal to your wife unless you have porn, you should think about what kind of marriage you have in the first place. Isn't that kinda the bare minimum of a functioning marriage, to not cheat on your spouse? Sounds kinda whack, that you need an argument for that. And that doesn't really have much to do with your porn addiction; that's two seperate issues I think.

 

As a married guy I get where you're coming from, but I think it is the porn addiction fucking with your mind, and I believe it will change if you reboot as long as you have the right mentality and are committed to her like it sounds like you are. While society may not feel like porn is cheating, if you really think about it from an addict's point of view, it is a form of cheating. You're comparing your wife to the women you see in your addiction and even worse you're comparing her to the feeling you get when you indulge yourself. She's never really going to hold a candle to that. She's being cheated by losing your time and focus, your energy, and as your addiction gets worse she's losing the man she fell in love with.

 

I guess it does, but I still don't understand your premise I guess. Let me explain where I have issues with the argument you presented:

Premise 1: You say very cleary, that you never cheated on your wife in the past and that you do not want to do it in the future either. Or in other words: You say, that cheating on your wife is not even an option for you.
Premise 2: You say, your "selftalk" says you need porn in order to stay loyal to your wife. Or in other words: Your "selftalk" tells you, that if you don't use porn, you will cheat on your wife.

Don't you see the contradiction?
Either you are sure, that you would never cheat on your wife - so: Premise 1 is true -, but then you don't need porn in order to stay loyal anyways - so: Premise 2 is false, ....OR....
you really need porn to stay loyal to your wife - so: Premise 2 is true -, but then you can not say, that you wouldn't cheat on your wife - so: Premise 1 is false.

There isn't a way, where both Premises can be true at the same time. It's either the one or the other. Never both. Either YOU are right about yourself...OR...your "selftalk" is right about yourself. Which one is it?

So, I guess what I want to say is this: What kind of person are you and what kind of marriage do you have? The type, where you can say with great certainty that you are not going to cheat or the type, where you are a slave to external factors and where you are not in control of yourself and your life? That's your decision to make. But once you made your decision (hopefully in favor of Premise 1), the argument your "selftalk" gives you makes no sense anymore. If that is the case, you can tell your "selftalk" why it's talking garbage and why it needs to shut up.

I hope I was able to get the point across, which I was trying to make.