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[90-CHALLENGE] THE NINETY DAYS CHALLENGE !

Discussion in 'Events & Challenges' started by 2525, Oct 27, 2017.

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  1. bookblooming

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  2. Redfire

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    0/90. I have been trying for almost 10 years. I reached 70days+ once; but never 90. It's very frustrating. Many times, most times actually, I think THIS is the time. But then, I relapse. And this time, also, I think will be the time. But how do I actually make it? Each failure makes me weaker and weaker. I just don't know what to do. I've read all kinds of literature by know, all kinds of tips. I'm not religious btw, with all due respect to those who are; but God or prayers won't do it for me.

    Anyway, sorry. I felt like saying that. So: 0/90 then. Again.
     
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  3. Timothy_James

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    So far I've been mainly been focused on Javascript and its abstractions and various dependences (like React, React Router, React Testing, Redux, Axios, Yup, Styled Components...) and of course the fundamentals of HTML and CSS. Our program moves into backend server stuff next unit.

    Unfortunately I did end up relapsing so I'll have to start over at zero. I'll need to account for the possibility of a massive fatigue hit if I hit another wall like that.
     
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  4. Timothy_James

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    Hey bro,

    I just want to tell you that you're not alone in that experience. I've been trying to get a 90 day streak since 2015.....my best streaks were in the 50s and 60s and those only happen every once in a while (like maybe once a year). I've read so much, watched so many videos, I've been in counseling, I've worked on my daily habits and lifestyle.....all good things which have improved my life, but still no lasting success with nofap.

    Anyway, I don't really have anything comforting to say about all of it and I don't have the answers for you. But, for what it's worth, I just want you to know that you're not the only one. I'm going through that too and it fucking sucks. It sucks to fail over and over and once it gets to this point where it's been going on for years I start getting scared that I'll never get out of it....not to mention it's humiliating to try for so long at something and not succeed.

    I know how you feel. It fucking suck. And I'm sorry you're going through it.
     
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  5. Pylos

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  6. Jerky

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    Today is day 3 and I just have to say that in my past experiences the closer I get to 90 the wilder my urges become. It feels great to ride them out but awful when I give in. I really want to experience the other side of 90 and beyond. I can imagine what that will be like. I know what 3 weeks feels like and I know what 3 months feels like but I always give in right around that time. Lately 3 weeks is my record and thats progress from where ive been
     
  7. Jiminy Cricket

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    I could have typed the exact same thing today...

    Strength to you my friend!
     
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  8. Jiminy Cricket

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    I just relapsed after exactly 3 weeks. I don't really know why in hindsight. But going to try again!

    Much love to you
     
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  9. GryzzlyMischka

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    Still, you held for 3 weeks. It is already a good progress! You will make it longer, just keep doing it.
     
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  10. GryzzlyMischka

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    Day 2 (2): As I said before, I should be tired as hell to not to do several things like PMO. Today (yesterday) happened exact thing. I still feel myself tired like from the good workout. My body need some time to recover after this type of activity. Managed to practice the drawing and the guitar, what made me a bit happier
     
  11. Apple Mozart

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    Day 48.

    I will not PMO today because I want to have consistent good erections during sex.
     
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  12. Sorry for the relapse. I am glad that you are not giving in. In reality, you are not starting over at zero despite what the counter says. You have already made significant progress. I believe that each relapse has a silver lining even if it makes us feel like trash thereafter. There is a lesson we need to learn. We need to search out for the lesson by doing some introspection on why we relapsed and get back on track. Keep up the good work!!!
    Also, I am wildly guessing you are leaning towards the MERN stack in your course. React is very popular and I have seen that there are still significant job openings for React for front end web development. I guess you are going to learn about NodeJS and some database development next. Wish you all the best!
     
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  13. 17/365- Fought valiantly against the strong urges and won the battle! I am happy today.
     
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  14. jathanielnames1471

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    Day 33 of my 90 day challenge
     
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  15. ShinyTurtle

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    Day 16/90
    Gonna give it my all today so I can enjoy in the weekend!
     
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  16. Redfire

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    Man...this was really comforting, truly. For some reason it feels better to know you are not alone in that experience. I mean: it's not that I didn't know before. But still, thanks. It helps.

    And yeah. It IS humiliating. I mean, if you can't control yourself, how can you hope to control anything? I think it applies in all sorts of ways. How can you have a truly good relationship with someone, for example, if you don't have a good relationship with yourself? How can you be at peace with the world and life, if you are not at peace with yourself? And it goes on and on.

    And therapists mostly think it's just a matter of thinking about it differently, that it is not such a big deal, etc. But I think it is a big deal. The way I think about it, if you can do this, then every day you know you did at least ONE thing properly. You moved forward. Your day might've been horrible; but you still advanced. And then we all have good days and bad days, and regular days; but with this you know that there is at least one constant in your life, where you always move forward. And I truly believe if you are going to choose ONE thing to do, this is it. Exercise for example is also great, ofc; but if you for example go on vacation for a couple of weeks and don't exercise, it's really not such a big deal. Even if you ate junk food, drank booze, whatever; it's fine. You can recover afterwards, it's not such a big deal. For me it isn't anyway; I know there are people who struggle with over-eating or booze. Not a problem for me. But this fucking shit? Relapsing? Man, it really sets me back. It makes me not want to do anything, and doubt I can do anything. It makes me think, how can I have such mighty goals, like say, starting a company? Which is sth I always wanted to do (I'm a programmer). How can I even think of doing something so challenging, if I can't even control myself?

    And finally, when I do NoFap I get an actual interest in girls. Real, actual girls. I find myself actually enjoying talking to them, getting interested in what they say, etc. Which is I think the way it's supposed to work. You are supposed to feel like that, to enjoy the whole thing; not just sex. Girls are great. But when I masturbate, I lose all interest in women. I'm not particularly nervous around them, but I have zero interest and zero patience. And plus, I ger erectile dysfunction. And most girls were actually pretty decent to me about it. But it's embarrassing. So combine that with lack of interest, and why would I want to expose myself to that again? It's humiliating. I've managed to fix that with penis strengthening pills (why the hell is the word banned? I can't send the name of the brand, won't let me post, wtf? I know it's not good, that's the whole point.), but then the sex is horrible. It feels mechanical. And I can't ejaculate. Anyway, enough.

    Whatever your circumstances, whoever is reading this: masturbation is bad. Porn is also bad, yes; but masturbation in general is a bad thing. There's no need to go into details, we've all seen the videos. It drains you, it drains the life out of you. All societies knew this, all religions discourage it. That's for a reason; men all over the world, in all sorts of cultures, realized how damaging this was. And how strengthening retention is. So, WHY would you do this to yourself? Why?

    I wish I knew.

    Anyway, stay strong. And thanks for the message. It really helped. And it also helps getting all of this off my chest.

    Oh: 1/90. Hurray.
     
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  17. Phil 3:12-16

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  18. Timothy_James

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    Good words bro! Thanks for sharing.
     
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  19. Timothy_James

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    Thanks for the encouragement my friend! All the best to you as well.
     
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