How to developed NO PMO MINDSET - DAY 90 SPECIAL

Day 75 completed. New rank achieved - SPARTAN GENERAL! ( 100 DAYS SPARTAN CHALLENGE)
Currently on FLATLINE. Status NO P, NO MO, still i need to work on how to better avoid all the the things that are hidden in plain sight. Before I had Instagram, Telegram, Twitter, P-subs comics. etc.

• Now with better Control i have been able to get rid of all of them by meditating between the reality and fiction. It usually depends on the amount of self control you have on yourself. I would not recommend you to go onto the extreme and get rid of everything at ONCE. Rather take it slow get and introduce productive habits in your life to replace it, If you cannot leave these, then atleast follow some good people with quality content that makes you a better person, NOT A SLAVE TO THEIR BODY.
• Instagram - now deleted on phone, only present in laptop which is always in company of people. Rather i have did my best to avoid all those "social media influencers" that want to show how perfect there body is and how minimal there coverage they can wear. Its a real Shitshow and further you are away from it the better.
• Twitter - Since It doesn't have to follow community guidelines, the best it does is to not let you view mature and sexual content if you don't have an account. Since the inception of google, you are one click away from viewing all of that material by just making an account. The best i did was get rid of the twitter account by deleting it. Since i was not a big fan of twitter it was really easy to not have this ich to see everything. STILL STAY AWAY FROM IT.
• Telegram was relatively easy, i just deleted it from my phone. SINCE it has the search option, you should always be on guard against yourself
• P-Subs - Now there is a lot of grey area here, what it usually boils down to is everything which is not exactly pornographic but highly sexual which can make you arouse and later lead to relapse. All the above are some source of P-subs, models, pages, the weird ass cuts for a Porn video so its not visibly, all of that is the stuff you should avoid. Also if you are fan of comics and manga's, there are also creators which make a more mature mangas that has sex and nudity involved. ESPECIALLY STAY AWAY FROM THOSE, specially the KOREANS Full colored ones, these are like slow poison and you may think as its fine i am not really doing anything. IT IS STILL PORN, BUT AS A DRAWING! Its essential in your reboot to cleanse yourself of this whole PERFECT BODY WOMEN mentality that the media has twisted your BRAIN into.

THATS ALL PRETTY MUCH WHAT YOU NEED TO TAKE CARE OF.

• HOW DO YOU GET TO THE POINT WHERE YOU DENY THE CRAVINS TO SEE THEM -
• Let me tell you this encounter i had not to long ago.

Last night i was in predicament. At least that's what your mind wants u to say.
I had in my hand this phone and twitter profile was open which in one click would take me to this MEGA storage site which has collection of all my fetishes that i was addicted to.
Back in my mind there was this tussle, not whether to open to it or not. It was this voice almost commanding me to go ahead, you are here already watch it , yes its fine go do it.
AAAAAAND I DID NOT. I said to myself -

1. I am not weak, I will not go back to my old self, I am in control not you.
2. THIS IS NOT REAL.
3. THE WELL ANALOGY I DEVELOPED TO FIGHT ALMOST EVERY URGE TO WATCH OR M.

• SO THE QUESTION ARISES, HOW DO YOU GET TO THIS!?
• Well for me specifically, my last streak was around 2019 when i was serious. afterwards it was chaser effect and for 2 years i was the same doing all of them crazy things.
• What i did was-

1. GATHER ALL THE KNOWLEDGE YOU CAN ABOUT THE REBOOT, WORKINGS OF THE BRAIN, HOW ADDICTIONS WORKS, TESTIMONY OF PEOPLE WHO ARE OLDER THEN YOU AND HOW THERE LIFE HAS EFFECTED WITH PMO. Some books to get started

1. 1. The Porn Trap by Wendy Maltz
   2. Breaking the Cycle by George Collins
   3. Sex and Porn Addiction Healing and Recovery by Scott Brassart
   4. Your Brain on Porn by Gary Wilson
   5. The Porn Myth by Matt Fradd
   
2. UNDERSTAND YOUR REALITY - You are addicted, WHY? There is always an answer. You just haven't looked your self in the mirror and asked yourself important questions. See, this PMO is like a defense mechanism, which you mind is accustomed to whenever you feel yourself in a compromising, stressed, vulnerable situation. You always solve your problems when you are facing them not by running away. Most of the stories i read her has one thing in common, they got introduced to P and M. they had a certain trauma growing up, or a thing that happened which kickstarted this whole PMO defense mechanism. That's why SELF REFLECTION becomes mandatory in REBOOT. YOU NEED TO HAVE A BETTER UNDERSTANDING ABOUT YOUR PROBLEM AND MOST IMPORTANTLY YOURSELF.
3. STOICISM - Just recently i saw a forum here talking about how Stoic mentality helped them overcome the barrier. At first i was a bit skeptical as i never was introduced to it, it has this book recommendation called The Daily Stoic , it has 365 pages of daily stoic lessons that you can incorporate in life for being a better self. What i learned was - How to build stronger mentality, what is in your control and what is not. How to not let them affect your spirit. how to have a better perspective on life, how a good mindset can help you in longer run and so much more. I YOU ARE INTERESTED I WOULD SUGGEST THE BOOK AND A YOUTUBE CHANNEL CALLED GRAVEMIND. Watch its video and you will understand.
4. YOUR WHY NEEDS TO BE THE STRONGEST - Frankly this is the most important support one can have in this reboot. You need to have a purpose, you need to have a reason for committing to this discipline. Before i had all the above in my arsenal i had and very well still have a strong reason to why i needed the REBOOT. SO if you are failing STOP, Sit down and think deeply about your reasons, i am sure you will find it.
5. THE WELL ANALOGY - I WILL FIND THE POST AND QUOTE IT BELOW AS IT HAS EVERYTHING TO IN IT SO STAY TUNED.

So these are what i considered the MENTAL aspects that helped me make it this far. I plan on making this whole reboot as part of my life rather then counting days. There are Physical aspects as well but i will talk about it after Reaching day 120 and i havent been developing that area of discipline.
In the closing statements i will just say, YOU CONTROL YOUR MIND, YOUR MIND DOES NOT CONTROL YOU. YOU HAVE THE POWER!

 

Sure, name some of the books here. I will add them in thread too.

 

Thanks for the recommendations.

 

If you are going to replace it then replace them with good and productive habits.

 

How to win mental battles.

 

A friend asked me this and i hope it can help you guys in any way. Peace

"Q . have you passed the flatline ?

My take - To be honest man, the flatline phase is different for everyone. You can say there are levels to this discipline, say a heavy addict a medium to occasional PMO user. I think i was somewhere between heavy to medium considering the shit i used to do.
about flatline, i would say i dont feel much different. Like the only thing change is i dont really crave for porn or insta models pics to the point that i cant sleep at night. You can say that i just bulldozed my way into with a heavy "WHY" to my reasoning. Now I can say that i havent been doing much self improvement say meditation or working out or going out much due to reasons, you can say that may have been the reason why i dont feel much. I plan on making a routine after this week and implement self imp with my discipline.

Now if you are wondering about when you will feel the flatline has passed or results of the discipline, i would suggest this.
1. Unlike me, actually make a good work out routines, or meditation in your daily life.
2. Go out more, because we are not meant to stay in a room for most of time, preferably new places you wanted to visit.
3. Make new habits or try new things such as learning guitar or anything you wanted to do for the longest time.
4. I feel like this is imp step and helped me in my last streak. "Do something each day that you generally would not do" It can be anything, say talking to strangers, feed an animal, some community service, etc. Anything which you either fear or just moving down the queue.
5, Stay consistent. I cant honestly tell you what it would like when you pass flatline, but the thing in our hands is keep going. You must have seen yourself, that things were harder on day 1 comparing to today in your discipline.

I hope my words help you in any capacity. Goodluck."