The Lord of the Rings Challenge

thank you ma man

 

excellent bro

 

thank you brave Warrior

 

that´s the thing with hardmode, if used wrongly it can hurt the relationship, but if used correctly it can strengthen it. you´re doing hardmode for yourself (and indirectly for your significant others) but don´t stay idle during this time, bro. it will be damaging.

on the contrary, strenghten your relationship! hardmode is a great way to boost the relationship because with sex out of the way, you can profit this time to deepen your relationship to a new level and improve your skills as a husband. so, get to know your wife better. what´s her favorite colour? hobbies? food? perfume? goals? fears? use this time to really know her! and vice-versa.

and be romantic! go on a date with her, buy her gifts, surprise her... there´s so much stuff to do!

and if in the current time, there´s an irritation among you, that´s the first thing you should attend: make peace. but don´t go to her without making peace with yourself first. first calm yourself, focus, and then do what you got to do.

i hope this helps.

 

thank you from the heart ma man

 

my dear brother, i strongly disapprove the use of Karezza . let me explain, we all know the benefits of hardmode during a reboot, no need to point them out. but one of the main reasons is to give the brain a rest from the constant sexual stimulations, to help the rewiring of the brain.

if we engage in karezza we are still flooding our brain with sexual based dopamine, which is something we are preventing, to even the levels of dopamine with other kinds of activities. with karezza, sex is still in the front row. and therefore the tendency to indulge in it, and eventually keep getting attracted to sexual dopamine rushs (chaser).

plus, with karezza the coping skill of sexual mastery gets washed away because we are still engaging in sex.

therefore, going full celibate for a given amount of time is better, and the required task at hand

of course, one can engage in mild romance, like kisses and hugs. on that level, that´s ok

 

Checking in Fellowship!!

Thank you so much for your kind advices. i wake up a bit early today to start running, but my body felt the difference, and i woke up so tired, that i immediatly dismiss the idea . so, i´m gonna let my body get used to the new wake up schedule, and on wednesday i will try to run

like i said, i´m feeling physically very broken, like a 90 years old, withdrawal is hitting me hard, however my mood is good. i´m trying to do all my chores, just following the principle "one thing at a time", that way my body doesn´t hurt so much

no urges or temptations, still in flatline.

nothing more to add brave Fellowship! here´s a nice newsletter that i receive from Mark Queppet today. Have a great day!


"Do not read this unless you want to kill your most poisonous excuse:

If you're tired of falling for your own self-sabotaging BS, then the following story holds the key to your success:

I was running a mentoring call in the Self-Mastery Club the other day when one of our regular participants who, in his own words "NEVER felt loved" in his whole life, came on live to chat with me.

I don't know all the details of his situation, but it sounds like neither mom, nor dad, nor anyone else ever gave him the kind of unconditional love and support that many of us are blessed with at least to SOME extent.

Not surprisingly, he medicated this heartache with porn.

Sadly, this porn habit has morphed into a rather nasty addiction that's sucking away his time and energy, screwing up his sexuality with an escalated fetish, and filling him with a tremendous amount of self-loathing.

On the call, he told me:

"I hate myself... I hate how I behave... all the time... I'm so disgusted with myself over so many of the things I've done... I hate it... I'm so embarrassed... I really feel that a lot."

He truly thought he was a bad person.

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"If you were to take a truly horrible person, I'm talking about a genuine scumbag... how much remorse and guilt do think such a person feels over doing bad things?"

Him: "None"

Me: "And how much guilt do YOU feel when you do bad things?"

Him: "A mountain"

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What would it look like if YOU adopted this attitude?

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UYAP,
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