47 days in, should i keep going or quit?

Relax and let the women come to you.

 

Dont even THINK about quitting, if you want to ever attract women that is.
Once you've been a few hundred days in you'll stop putting women on a pedestal because you wont be addicted to them anymore. Youll just go after what attracts you. That will get results.

 

Definitely don't quit. It can take months for you to get benefits from quitting porn. You're 47 days in, so you're right around the corner from when benefits might start to come in. I've gone ~4 months before, and started to see serious benefits after around ~2 months.

There was a guy in the 1800s who was digging for gold, and gave up less than a foot away from a gold vein, don't be that guy.

 

itll never be simple unless you're just super attractive. but what pmo can do is trick your brain into thinking that theres a way to bypass all of that by just clicking a few buttons or thinking a few thoughts. So the less you put that in your brain, the less stressful it will be because you "have" to approach women.

 

How do you know? You just said your a masturbation addict!

 

If you're struggling with social anxiety, you should try therapy. Quitting porn will help you stop obsessing over/objectifying women but it's not going to cure your social anxiety. It's just a piece of the puzzle, not a panacea.

 

I see a lot of posts on this forum where people are exhibiting symptoms of mental illness and they think quitting porn will solve it. It will help, but if you are really struggling, quitting porn alone is not going to cut it.

 

That's not a very practical advice, brother.

 

1) Don't quit, any type of challenge is good for you.
2) Approaching girls when you have anxiety is hard, congratulations for trying!
3) I'm not an expert but maybe start a conversation with a question about something you want to talk about. The problem with saying "nice shoes" it doesn't lead to much open conversation. Most girls will say thank you and walk off if you don't have a follow-up.
4) What do you like to do or talk about? If I approached a girl, I would say something like do you live near here? If they say yes, maybe ask them what restaurants they like to go to nearby, then ask them what types of food do they like, etc. Ask anything that's open-ended, ask any question that can't be answered with No, Yes, or Thank you.

 

You're just at the start of this journey so it's normal to feel this way. Don't quit, you've come a long way and you are starting to do positive things in your life. Doing pushups is amazing, and approaching girls is great. I would recommend to find some other hobbies in your life and keep going. The thing with anything is that the more you do it, the more comfortable you will be with whatever thing that is. If it's pmoing, the more you do, the more you will continue to do. If it's NoFap, the more you do, the more you will continue to do, and if it's talking to girls, the more you will continue to do. The other thing that is important to know is that there is literally nothing to gain from pmoing, it only drains.

 

Buddy - I’m 10 weeks in to this journey and started as I had a problem. I thought I’d fix myself then get on with my life.

No. This is life changing. And you won’t know or understand till you reboot and get your brain working as it was designed to.

When you’ve been at 90 days, you can decide to go back. You can conclude the benefits aren’t that great.

But do it before then and you’re just giving up and settling for a life less than the one you can achieve.

Yes - a 90 day reboot is gonna be hard. Will the girls come to you? Honestly - you’ll never know unless you do it.

So don’t take others word for it or try to decide based on your current porn fucked brain… get serious and do this - then decide.

What’s the worst that can happen bud? It was all a lie and you lose 90 day of wanking time?

No - don’t give up!