not a person to talk with, not a friend to have luch with

so lonely, there is no words for it, I see I am alone, sure people pass me by, may say hi, but that is no relationship, a lot of people like me, so I thought, do they really? maybe not, maybe I am a terrible person, that's why I am all alone.

 

Hey bud.
I am sorry and can certainly relate to how you feel. Do you have any reasons you can think of ,which are behind this?

 

Before I a say this, I am not blaming my good parents, I still live at home, no right minded women will see me at my age, still living at home. I got used all my life and not a women friend in the world. plus I have to live as I were still 8 years old and trying to gget my business going smoothly.

 

How old are you? Do you know where i come from children live with their parents all their lives, especially the guys.
It's all in the head buddy. You can't think a women won't like you just because of this. It's a small part of your life and doesn't define who you are.

What do you mean by "I have to live as I were still 8 years old and trying to gget my business going smoothly"?

 

Last time i was feeling down, i saw this video.

 

I am 38 r or it could be 39, I know its in my head, and talking about it will get it out of my head! I am hoping.

 

yep I like it, I will work on some honest time with my self, I know what you mean, I think you mean, be true to who I am? I used to always change for people, fhnage my identity, that was one problem about me.

 

got it!!

 

I need all the help I can get. I used to have girl friends, up to about 5 years ago, they were mostly in there 20's, now that I am almost 40 its hard to relate to women in there 30's they have had more experience then I have already. but then maybe not. that's good that you got closer to your sister. it gives me hope, that maybe I can still find someone.

 

I am just wondering why I am 38 and never been in a relationship, maybe I really am self centered, and just think to my self, what a wonderful giving person I am.

 

I have been on a date 1 or 2 times in my life, I am starting my own business, I am a very hard worker, I like flying kites, movies, eating out, relaxing, I have not been going to church too much at the moment. I am 38 now I have never dated for several years, I would not know how to communicate with a women about 33 years old. I will think more about your questions though.

 

my parents have always treating me like a dunce, for example when I got my drivers license she said she was surprised that I pasted the test, as if I were to dumb to pass it. the other day my dad told me I need to wash my hands and arms when I get home from work. and they treat me like a 5 year old, and then a minute later I am supposed to try and contact a future customer, or talk with a customer in a professional manner.

 

I have never once been able to even go to a church fuction and let my self go in Christian setting.

 

I feel less lonely by removing social networking from my phone thus "forcing" myself to actually go and talk to people, say "hi" first, initiate conversations and go out more. I have spend an incredible amount of time in my own company. I believe one has to take the first step in most things in life. It isn't handed on a plate. I now hang out at a new bar several times a week and i've been welcomed warmly from the first day i went there. It's a very hard situation and i have a long way to go but just getting out there from the comfort zone feels good and makes you crave for more real human contact.

 

brit axe, I have tried that it just never worked for me, maybe I will have to give it a second try! I am glad your welcomed there, its good to have a place to go to and meet people. your right, I got to work for everything, it will not be handed to me! I got to make it happen.