Why Do We Fail? Why Do We Succeed?

The purpose of the question is to invoke thought.

We fail at this addiction for a few reasons. One being that the addiction is a secret one. We have the opportunity to bring it wherever we go. Normally with an addiction, drugs for example, one has to actually leave their residence and purchase something in order to get high. With pornography it’s at our fingertips all day and night. That’s also why I feel that this addiction is one of the most difficult kinds.

I can remember when I came clean to my brothers. I explained everything and they were compassionate, accepting and understanding. Of course they were, they had also suffered similar issues. Coming clean was one of the first steps I took to recovery. But in the end no one else can stop you, it must come from inside you.

The other reason we succumb to this weakness is self esteem. We don’t hold ourselves highly enough to think that we deserve better. In a sense, the overwhelming number of youth thinking that PMO is normal probably have low self-esteem. “I’m just me, who cares?” “What does it matter if I run myself down to the lowest depths of thinking and feeling, I’m not important.” These are thoughts I have had and I believed them deeply. It wasn’t for a long time that I realized my addiction affected everyone I interacted with. I was curt, sharp-tongued, argumentative; a downright asshole. Excessive PMO made me feel low because that’s exactly what it does; that’s the normal side effect. Which leads to why we succeed.

Holding yourself in a higher light is powerful. But it takes awareness. We must experience enough of the pain before we understand who we really are—which is pure energy, pure light. When we realize how great each of us really is, we can start to take responsibility for our actions. We can see how our actions affect those around us because everyone looks up to us in one way or another, it’s true. Some look up to us for our humor, some see us with a strong work ethic and wonder how to pick up on that, or others may re-enact our demeanor when we are at our best.

At our best we are unstoppable. When we stay focused and attain right living, right thought and right action, we become what most would define as noble and courageous. We actually defy what culture is telling us is normal. In a way we are stubborn, saying no to the norm, but those wallowing in the norm see us and wonder how we do it, just like we wondered how our role models did it.

Become your own role model. Become something great, it’s really not that hard to do. Once you understand that greatness is your natural state, all that’s left to do is act on it. Claim whats rightfully yours.

 

I like it.

 

Exactly.

 

Man thats nice of you to say. Most of the time I write after my daily meditation.

 

Well said Brother. This community was the answer to my question "what do I need to get this damn thing done already?"

 

I hope you have come to realize that the way people see you is built around a false concept. You are Master. You are everything. All potential of everything is within you, right now.

 

No, this is good. You stayed right into it and went deeper. Thank you.

What strikes me when you say its not all about willpower, is that I have found that willpower, energy and awareness are the same thing. So, that means if we believe like I do, that we are souls, that we are pure energy, then we are also pure willpower and awareness. In a sense everything is us then, and everything is energy, willpower or awareness. To believe that takes some seeking into Hindu mysticism though.

On another note, everything outside of us is usually created by our own doing. Have you ever experienced something when you weren't there? Did you ever not put yourself somewhere? To post here took your energy, awareness and willpower, didnt it? You made the choice to stop and try something else, your willpower, or you, did it. You did it. You altered your future by making a decision. Most of the time we choose what happens to us, no one else.

 

Thanks for reading and giving feedback Brother.

 

Edited to reflect the chapter in the manual