"No sex before marriage" group

For me, it's mainly a religious thing, but I agree with it. Sex is a sacred, and wondrous thing, and should be saved for that one person that you want to spend the rest of your life with; the one who you want to give everything to. I also think of it like a savings account. By waiting until marriage, you're saving up that currency, rather than spending it all the time, and never giving it the chance to grow, you're taking care of it and nurturing it. And by the time you get married, you've saved up so much, that the payoff for cashing it in will be well worth it.

 

Well said! Sex is definitely a very special thing, that can only be truly appreciated once you can fully commit to somebody.

I would be careful not to get your expectations too high regarding the pleasure side of it. Many people abstain, hoping that when they finally get married the sex will be amazing and all their PMO addiction will go away. We must remember that sex is also about connecting with the other person on a whole other level.

 

Throughout history I don't know if there were many times as hard as this to remain chaste until marriage. The bombardment of temptations and advertisements are so widespread and embedded in society. No wonder when I was in high school/secondary you would get young people that lied about NOT being a virgin? think about that for a second... thats messed up

 

People married a lot younger back in the day. I know it's a long time ago, but if you look at the ages people married in the middle ages, men often got married around 15, sometimes younger.

Adulthood used to be defined by the age around which you were capable of reproducing (or shortly thereafter). Nowadays, we have defined adulthood at a much higher age. As such, people that want to wait until they get married to have sex, must wait throughout puberty (one of the most challenging times) and even well into their twenties (or early thirties in many cases).

This means that during the times when people used to be the most sexually active, they must remain in control of their urges. This is why the porn industry does so well, and PMO is such an issue for many people.

 

You do have a point. I have heard other people say similar things. Though I would like to say that nearly any ideology when it is picked up by people who are ignorant of the ramifications of that ideology is a bad idea.
In the end as far as what I have observed, it is better to wait.

 

I can understand that man. I can also relate to it. There have been many times when I wanted to sleep with a girl, but I decided against it since it would feel like I was betraying a part of me and letting what is in my mind actually make it to my actions.

 

Yeah, it would be more lust than closeness. Also after recovering from each non-marriage relationship I Heard that your ability to trust someone is not as strong, and infact weakens if that makes sense

 

I want to wait to have sex before marriage for multiple reasons. The main reason being that I am a born again christian. But even before marriage I need to get a grip on my life and overcome my porn/masturbation addiction. I keep relasping after around 10 days or so. I make excuses for myself and I'm really not into this journey even though I know how bad I need to go NoFap for life! I've gone around 2 months as my longest streak of no pmo. I know I need to pray for myself but please pray for me to have the will power to beat this awful addiction fellas. I will do the same for you all and I am proud of all of you for just being on here wherever your at in life.

 

what usually triggers you around 10 days?

 

That and it just seems to complicate things. Sex is a purely biological need. Your body will want to go where it can get it easily. Sometimes I think people get confused between a true emotional connection and the rush you get from fulfilling a biological want. When the sex is taken out of the equation, if you weren't emotionally connected to that person then there might not be anything left to keep the relationship going.

 

I'm a 20 year guy and i intend to have sex only with the girl i'm in love with(haven't found her yet) and only when i am married to her. If unfortunately doesn't happen i'll happily remain celibate all my life (and yes die a virgin no regrets). Sex isn't just about taking off your clothes and doing the act for me. I felt this way a long time but seeing this scene really helped me put it in words to express it

 

Enjoyed that film

This video hits home for me,

 

That video was hiliarious I hope you guys contine, and do not feel bad if you have sex before marriage if you love the girl it will still be magical!

 

I've already had sex and have never been married.

Is this supposed to be some kind of advice, lol?

Btw, who is talking about feeling bad about anything?

 

Remaining celibate until marriage is a beautiful choice. I am glad I decided this is what I want. Yet it is challenging remaining committed to my ideal, my most noble of aspirations, which is celibacy until marriage. In this way I am involuntarily celibate, as my lower animal nature would like to mate with any attractive female I have feelings for. This is the low road, for me personally. I would rather choose the high road and save my sexuality for marriage, raise the frequency of love so to speak, to bring me closer to divine heights of being and also cultivate myself to my fullest potential.

Another film scene of inspiration,

 

I would consider myself theologically a Puritan. Anyone who has actually studied the Puritans know that they thought highly of sex. It was to be between spouses only and a duty to be done with joy and pleasure. A man was excommunicated because his wife kept going to the minister, then session and then the assembly because he was not intimate with her.
I hope I can wait chastly (as in PMO wise, real sex probably couldn't get). for that day

 

Hope is all we have.

 

I'm 22 years old and decided to stay virgin until marriage, because of my religion (I'm Protestant Christian). Beside that, it makes me more careful, when choosing a partner, which is good.

 

Great thread and me sadly i not a virgin and never been married but if there are opportunities for sex in the future i will wait till marriage.

 

Excellent point.

There are a few threads at the moment on sexless marriages. Take it from me: if you don't take into account sexual compatibility and just choose the first good girl you meet, you may be sorry.