Things I learned after abstaining from PMO

Hi everyone...

I started my nofap journey almost a year ago, when i first discovered it online...

At first, I could not understand its significance, but eventually, I decided to try it because I saw it as a challenge and something new to try...

So, at first, I could not hold longer than a week, but after a while, after few relapses, I could go for 2 months straight, and my maximum was over 6 months...

I still do ...

And there were number of benefits I received which I would like to share with you guys ...

1) I felt that I could do anything ...
Because i was not feeling guilty or such from within. I knew I was true to myself and that is what actually helped me to believe that I can do anything. Nothing is impossible. It's just a matter of getting out of my comfort zone, making mistakes, and learning from the feedbacks, and I could, like anyone, achieve anything... well, it will take a lot of time and effort, but it is possible.

2) I could talk with anyone ...
Before, I could not make conversation because I was always in my head. I was thinking, "What if they don't like what I say?" ... "Oh, I look so stupid with that line," ... and things like that, but once I developed inner calm and peace from abstaining from not ejaculating, I soon realized that I could talk with anyone without feeling inferior or guilty, because I knew I was not cheating with anyone. My conversations were authentic and I was not trying to swindle anyone... I also improved my conversation skills because I was able to talk to so many different people leading interesting lives and also realize that they were human beings with flaws. So, no more putting them on a pedestal and that was easy once I saw them at my level.

3) Finally, I became a more risk taker

Not in a bad sense, but I started to do that I had been say I would do. I started my online business. I went on a 14 day trek in the mountains and it was freezing cold. I climbed 5,416m high mountain pass, travel outside of my own country, and visit France two times. Previously, during my fap days, I would never even dare to think about it... it was impossible for me. Now, because I am in a better shape and earning better, I can afford to go outside of my own country and meet interesting people ...

Well, all these benefits would not be happening for me if I did not came across your website and I would like to thank everyone for being a support for me and others.

Thanks, Abi

 

Hi Cud, thanks for taking time to reply to my thread. I think you do care about your life and others, and I wish you all the best for your journey too. Yes, once in a while, we tend to get tempted and fall into our old habits (happened to me several times because that's how our mind is - wants to go back to the old ways as it is comfortable), but we have to TRUST the new set of habits we are creating ... and when I mean TRUST, you have to absolutely believe that it - nofap challenge - is going to work, because it is also psychological I realize. "Believe enough and you shall reap," sort of thing. Otherwise, you will give up, just like a lot of others did. But YOU must not. I just tell myself, "Do you want to be an average? Or do you want to be someone rare?" And that helps break my old (bad) habits such as porn ...

Yes, talking to the bartenders, or waiters, or any other girls feel so easy. I know.

And another thing: you really do not care what they think about you, which makes you appear even more attractive and confident. This way, conversation lead to a whole different level, allowing you to speak your mind with them just the way you wanted it, not coming across as a guy full of scripts and pickup lines.

Do you know that during my fap days, I never got laid with a single girl. I spent my money and time with h**kers. But, after quitting it and also starting meditation (you must also include this - 15-30 minutes a day, every day), I was taking better care of my mind as well as going out and talking with girls without feeling shame ... and they could sense it. I got laid 9 times within 9 months after abstaining from PMO! Remember, I approach tons of girls every week (pick up sort of thing) and try to hook up with them, but that's another story.

So you see, it works! It definitely does. My intention to quit PMO was to get a girlfriend and become more outgoing and social. Now i have both of them. If I (socially repressed, shy, and that I was) can do it, anyone can do it. But NoFap challenge also affects other aspects of your life in a positive way and bring more joy and happiness into your life. For example, you learn to try new things because you have so much of energy in you, just like a 6-year old guy! Always smiling, always going out, and always exploring ...

Tip: Just do nofap until you get laid? How about it? That's what Style - pickup artist - used to do to motivate himself to go out and get laid.

Anyways, if you have any questions or issues, let me know ... maybe I can help you too ... but I am glad you are on your own journey ... Please keep on going ... All the best