Fantasizing

Are you using the past porn you watched as your fantasy? If so it's bad as your suposed to disassociate with porn completely and it can lead you to relapse.

If you fantasy is about having a connection or intimacy with a real person you desire to have a relationship with then it is alright. Just restrain from edging, M or O.

 

Yea, don't fantasize about pornstars. But fantasizing about real women is ok I guess.
But if you can abstain from fantasizing I would.

 

I'd say that fantasies can be bad.
Let me say why:
-Fantasizing at the view of a woman that you cross on the street or that you already know: You'll think sex acts, not tenderness...your fantasy will turn that girl into a sex object; OBJECTIFICATION of the woman.

-Fantasizing about some stuff you seen online that you want to try with your girlfriend/wife: You might be able to do it, but she might be pissed, refuse, feel hurt...and you might feel like you're not getting what you want/need/think you need=frustration.
-Fantasizing is about keeping the lights on (open door for dopamine rush to flow...) that could lead to watching porn and masturbation.

-Fantasizing about some more hardcore porn/fetish or rough porn= bad juju...its not how love is...might be hard to fulfill some of these fantasies. It might even traumatize the poor girl....it could also get you into something you think you like but don't really like.

-To reboot, you have to put the sex thoughts behind you for a while, to re-discover a life without porn at the forefront.

My 2 cents

 

I respectfully disagree with this whole movement of "objectification" of women. It is natural to think of women in sexual ways. Not everything has to be about "love".
It is natural to "objectify" women, I mean that's just what guys do lets be honest here. Sure, if you care about the girls feelings, what she has to say, great. But nature "objectifies" the opposite sex for the purpose of selecting the right genes. If a man thinks about a women as just a 'sex object' than he is not evil in any way.
It is natural to objectify women - to think about having sex with them