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What kind of weird fetish arosual is this

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by VeryUnderstanding, Mar 20, 2016.

  1. VeryUnderstanding

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    Hey everyone i seem to get a good hard on when i fight/ argue with my girlfriend wtf haha
     
  2. Zinc

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    Sociopathy?
     
  3. VeryUnderstanding

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    A sociopath typically has a conscience, but it’s weak. He may know that taking your money is wrong, and he might feel some guilt or remorse, but that won’t stop his behavior

    Explains me in a nutshell but does this truley mean im a sociopath i alwayd alwayd get a hard on from arguing or fighting with my girlfriend or if she crys its pretty fucking weird
     
  4. RawheadRex

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    I don't get why people are so quick to throw "sociopathy" around. Getting a hard-on during arguments is a far cry from sexual assault and serial murder... Just sayin'...
     
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  5. Zinc

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    You don't have to be a rapist or serial killer to be a sadistic sociopath "just sayin'"
     
  6. kk76

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    Maybe in the past a row has preceeded make up sex? So the row is a trigger?
     
  7. Both valid options... Personally, I can relate to the latter. There are certain sounds that really get my blood boiling for some reason, like in an irritated way, like the sound of a ticking clock or crickets chirping, and I've found that focusing on those sounds can also be arousing. I think it's the increased blood pressure, for me, in those instances.

    As far as getting aroused when she cries... I have no idea on that one. haha maybe you feel emotionally closer to her in those moments? Maybe she makes noises that sound similar to... um... "bedroom noises"? lol Or perhaps, as kk76 suggested, it's a conditioned cause/effect kind of thing.
     
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  8. kk76

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    Or Dacraphilia
     
  9. VeryUnderstanding

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    mmmm its abit concerning, to me its as if im getting a hard on whens shes in pain or crying, sounds like some whack psycopathic stuff
     
  10. Sounds like masochism. Which don't necessarily have to do anything with psychopathy or sociopathy. I can be turned on by masochistic stuff. The reason, for me personally, is not lack of empathy but feeling of being in power and control. It's also great way how to discharge anger by transmuting it into sexual energy. I suppose that's a fetish. But for you it might be as simple as just natural body's reaction to energy build up. Heard of people having spontaneous orgasms when doing skydiving or driving roller coaster? Nothing sexual about it. Energy and tension is being build up and your body finds a way how to discharge it, that's all. I'm sure you've seen this in movies too when couple is fighting and then start having wild, rough sex. It's just release of build up energy of anger. Don't overthink it, I doubt it's a mental thing, it's probably just that and doesn't go much deeper.

    This, by the way, is why PMO'ing works as a release for anger, stress, anxiety, etc. Because that is tension and MO'ing is a release. Not a healthy habit to exercise but that's why it works. Our emotions can be discharged in many ways. Anger inside can come out as arousal, anxiety and stress we have inside can come out of us as anger, etc.
     
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  11. Ikindaknew

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    Just STAWP and find something else to be aroused about.

    Making out sex is one thing AFTER the argument, but arousal during? It's not on. Your GF is most likely NOT aroused when she cries or argue...
     
  12. Physicist

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    This wouldn't be a sociopath. Sociopath by definition has no conscience :D

    Maybe the OP consider it dominance. Honestly, no point ever fighting in a relationship.
     
  13. RawheadRex

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    Listen, I'm not here to deal with your attitude. I'll tell you straight upfront. I just personally don't feel like NoFap is a place for people to judge and shame others. I was going to argue with you, but I'm not.
     
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