I'm Cured!

Glad to hear that, keep going!

 

Clearly you are happy, but are you cured? When was the last time you looked at porn and/or masturbated?

 

Good job.

 

Well, you are heading in the right direction. But it really isn't that long ago you were rubbing away like your life depended on it! I would be very cautious in declaring (even to yourself) that you are cured! Many people relapse after much, much longer periods of abstinence than this. You cannot afford to be complacent. Keep your strategies close by. Don't lapse man.

 

So it took you 2 months to recover? Sounds alot like my situation. This is encouraging even though everyone is different. I don't feel addicted to porn either. Even though I used it. I was more addicted to masturbating. Was easy to quit porn, not mo.good stuff

 

"The problem was I was jerking off on my own private time. I was addicted to jerking off without the porn just fantasizing about women in my own head."


@ lucky007 : Sounds similar to my situation, I don't think I was every addicted to hard core P, however I have been jerking and Ming all along from childhood and that is something which I am still not able to stop. I don't to watch P to MO all I need is to see a woman outside the whom who is slightly dressed provocative and my brain does the rest of the job and fires up the MO part.
My question to you is how did you get rid of jerking off ? Did you quit the jerking off through a hard reboot by absolute celibacy and then after some period of cleanness you started this relationship with woman, or did you inter in the real relationship which helped satisfy you and during the process you didn't have to go back to jerking since you were satiated. I am just trying to see if entering a marital relationship might help because apparently I am hooked up with it and have never had any relationship and seeing most comments people suggesting that I have to get rid of this first before I decide to enter marry , but that day is not coming for me and I jerk off here and there despite all the effort that I am putting.

 

For myself I attempted hard mode knowing my wife would want to have sex at some point. So we came to the agreement to have sex over a few day span each month since we are trying for kids. The rest of the month is hard mode. I'm only at day 37 right now of no porn or mo. Still have weak erections. Still have pe when we had sex. But still early in my 90 day attempt.

 

Hi, how long did it take for you to stop lusting after women in the streets and in sexual images? Also, aren't you just picking up one habbit and dropping another?.. Such as giving up jerking off to have casual sex to satisfy sexual urge? Wouldn't you then have issues later if you hot into a relationship because you would be addicted to casual sex with multiple partners? The sex addiction mightcremain but just be in different form?.. Maybe full reboot to rewire the dopamine need is best then to band aid it with a different sex objective? Glad you are better though about not objectifying women in the street, especially since there's so many that sometimes dress suggestively, especially in he summer. Im amazed you were able to turn off that side effect so easily, good for you.

 

Do you have any tips on getting a penis bigger?

 

Was wondering if the side effects to pmo'ing is low self esteem, anger, objectifying and if those thing disappear with time not pmo'ing. I'm sure it's somewhat alleviated. How does the low self esteem and anger manifest from pmo? Shame? Watching other males perform and feeling inadequate in comparison? Or chemically imbalance? My be definitely exhibits anger and low self esteem. I'm sure a lot of that was post porn but porn just added fuel to the fire.

 

You said, "More powerful one" Yea, man. If you were being honest in the quote above, be careful out there. That "more powerful one" has it's own pitfalls. For starters:

-Later, when you're ready to settle down, it may be more difficult to stay faithful.

-A good woman may never want to settle down with someone who has advanced to a sex addiction or is still just objectifying women.

-Men who feel real good about their sex addictions at 36 y/o, don't know what to do with themselves later when their junk doesn't work as well, especially if their definition of manhood is based on sex.

-And while you may not have been able to keep it up with PMO, it sound like the sexually transmitted diseases out there will make your s*it fall right off… (or of course kill you.)

So be careful. No need to trade one addiction for an even more destructive one.

There are other definitions of manhood besides virility. Maybe that's the next stage in your growth.

 

This is all so true, I think it's going back to the original problem, which is addiction and problem is addiction progresses, you will not be able to ever be satisfied with one women or the same women if you've programmed yourself to be a machine who's purpose is to ejaculate. And so it escelates because your brain can no longer be satisfied by the same thing or person. It's similar to chemical substances because you've damaged your brain chemistry, go to your brain on porn to see the video. So years down the line you might need to do go to greater lengths for that high, transexual, animals and so on so forth to continue getting the dopamine boost. Don't say that woukd never happen to you because uoi never thiught this would and it did. Addiction is no joke, it will burn you at ebery chance. Becareful opening that Pandora's box. Addiction is addiction, there's no such thing as being ok with drinking just the light stuff so it ain't so bad, that's the addiction talking to you, eventually desentization settles in as it does with porn and you get yourself deeper in that rabbit hole.

 

Well said dude - this is serious stuff we are trying to beat.

 

Yea, even the pornographers admit the 'light stuff' is just a gateway to the heavier stuff.

In fact, they count on it.