78 DAYS OF WHAT???

Yes, I'm sure there are some bollocks posts here, just like everywhere. People love attention, and will attain it by false means sometimes. Spend any time on facebook and it's plain. Embellished posts are common. "Had a gourmet meal this afternoon with some fabulous people!" No, you ate a tuna sandwich at your mom's house at the kitchen table lol. Thanks, facebook.

Rebooting is not linear, mate. Different amounts of time and success for different people. I'm over a year no pmo and I'm still sorting through many things. But you seem to be putting emphasis on stopping pmo to get birds. Having relationship success involves a lot more than stopping porn and wanking. That's step one.

What have you done to make yourself appealing? Education, witty, approaching, good conversation skills, interesting things to offer, grooming...hells bells, mate, there's a metric crap ton to consider. And, yes, I'd venture a weed problem is not doing you any favors.

 

I am in same boat as you. The urges are still there at this stage. I always thought they will disappear after 60+ days but that is not the case. I guess the deeper roots the addiction has in you, the longer it will take to recover.

Another thing to keep in mind is those who post success stories after 30 or 60 days aren't full recovered. They are posting them because that is the first time ever they have been PMO free ever since they started masturbating. Even I posted one when I was at 45 days. Going 30 or 60 days doesn't guarantee full recovery; it merely tells us that we can go farther than this.

Be cautious of your mind at this stage. It will do whatever it takes to make you think this isn't working and pull you back into the vicious cycle of addiction again. Some days are gonna be good; some days not so but recovery is just around the corner. Now that could be 90 days, 100 days or even 180 days, we don't know; only time will tell.

Bottom line is don't let yourself think that way because that would only end in disaster. Keep on fighting and the light is almost there right in front of you.

 

I second this. This middle part seems especially treacherous. Convincing rationalizations about why you should stop bothering with this or subtle urges that lurk and grow in the background of the mind. Things were more straightforward, out in the open, and in some ways easier at the beginning. I hope I make it long enough to see an end to this phase.

I also don't have a lot of objective improvements to report. Closer to the beginning I had a big boost in confidence but that seems to have tapered off. But one thing I can still see is how much more I like myself and how much better I feel about myself for having made it this far.

Don't give up, let's see how long this dark night of addiction lasts and get through to the other side.

Nom

 

Hi,

I'm over 50 days in now and I too am still experience fatigue and anxiety, a bit of depression even. It's normal you know. Your body needs a lot of time to recover after years and years of non-stop bad habits. It's an addiction, PMO, and often severe enough to trigger all sorts of problems, especially fatigue. Suddenly you stop PMO and your body doesn't know how to respond. Your hormones are out of whack. Hence all of the effects. But I'm quite sure you already feel better than you did when you just relapsed. Think back to that day... how did you feel? You felt worse than you do now, I'm quite sure of it. No matter how small the improvements, embrace them. Things change and the success stories are real. Eventually your body will forgive you and recover from the mess you made. It will. Don't give up now! You will have to go through the entire rebooting process again if you do. A year from now you will be looking back at this post feeling born again.
You need to be strong now. PMO is nothing. Give it at as long as you need, 9 months, a year, whatever it takes. It's a long time but your body will thank you for it.

 

What you guys are saying is absolutely true. And yeah something is wrong about it. What i have learned from my time trying to fight pmo and becoming better is that nofap itself doesnt have many benifit. But the real benifit comes from other stuffs. While i was pmoing whole day i used to think about porn used to lie down on my bed pmo all day. My mind was porn.

But the most successful period of my nofap was the first month of my nofap. Why was it the best? Becoz i had that determination. I had thought about it for days. N when i did leave pmo i added other things to my life. If you leave pmo n lie down in bed all day you will have the same energy level as before. What i did was force myself to do something productive. I started some work out, a little cleaning, a little walk. N thats what gave me the energy. Do anything but dont just sit there. Washing dishes dosnt sound pretty but it does give your body some work and your body will thank you for it. Sure i didnt like doing those things but i kept forcing myself and later it became a habit. I couldnt talk to any girl before. I forced myself to send a random girl a text message. It was scary and it turned out to be a stupid conversation and she didnt reply me than after. But i forced myself to send another girl a text. Slowely i learned from it. And i talked with multiple girls at a time and trust me the convos started getting smoother. Nofap gonna help you talk to a girl? No mate. But with nofap comes other activities that you must change in your life.
Hope it helps you all.