Why I cannot resist?

I had a great period without PMO from the 21th of September to the 10th of October (20 days). Then I relapsed but immediately restarted the rebooting. That one lasted 8 days. Another relapse (I masturbated and watched porn for 3 days). The last clean period finished yesterday, after 6 days. I think I'm going back into my bad habits. I am so depressed about this. I made progresses, but now... As soon as I see a picture of a girl on the social media, even by chance, I can't resist and I end up masturbating and watching porn. All this is so demotivating. I want to quit all this, I know I want it, but my brain is tempting me so much. I don't know how to get back on the right track. It is so difficult lately. When it occurs, I am not able to resist it!!! It is so annoying! I know many of you understand what I feel. How do you manage to make the drive pass?

 

People always say that quitting smoking is hard, and mentally it can be excruciating, because smokers have conditioned themselves to believe that they cannot go an hour, let alone a day without a cigarette. Research has proven that nicotine withdrawal is no worse than caffeine withdrawals, so then everything else is created in the smokers mind. And nobody forces smokers to buy cigarettes, they do it at their own accord. Nobody makes you or I PMO, we choose to do it on our own accord. When you say something like "I am not able to resist it" you are saying that you are not in control of what you are doing, and you know as well as I do that you are in complete control, even if it doesn't seem that way. When you say you are helpless, you are giving up your control. I know this might not be motivating, but I want you to understand how damaging it is to tell yourself something like that. You control your PMO, not the other way around. Making excuses makes the process impossible. I know this because I have made excuses for years. I made excuses why I couldn't give up my cannabis addiction, even telling myself that it was helping me, or that I needed it. I made excuses for why I couldn't stop smoking cigarettes ("im too stressed" or "I'll do it when im ready" or "Ill quit next week" etc). When I first discovered NoFap I made it 31 days without PMO before relapsing, only to find myself making excuses for the past 9 months, all of which were bullshit. Unless you are PMOing in your sleep, then there is no reason that you are "not able to resist". You are not alone in this battle. I found it helped me to write a journal, I plan to restart after a couple weeks being PMO free. Just remember, you are doing this for life, your not trying to see how long you can go without PMO, with that mindset you will be doomed to fail. I know you can do this. Best wishes.

 

Get off social media if it's triggering. Simple as that. Tell your friends/followers/subscribers "Hey I'm taking a few months off social media to do some other stuff."

The world will not end without FB, Snapchat, et al. You can call or text your friends.

Don't beat yourself up but don't do the same shit over and over expecting a different result. Heal thyself and enjoy the bounty of real booty.

 

You're right. I'm finding excuses. And yes, because of you I also understood that in all these days I wasn't really rebooting for life, but just in order to see how long I could resist. Thank you very much, you helped me to see my situation more clearly. Best wishes to you,too.

 

A porn addict can choose to watch porn. But, if a porn addict chooses to watch porn, the dopamine high they get is automatic, cause and effect. You have to avoid the dopamine rush to reboot, so, you are going to have to choose not to watch porn, and mean it.

 

It's a good method! I will keep it in mind, thank you