No More Mr. Nice Guy Challenge: Becoming a Stronger Man. (Dudes Only)

I'm not here to police anyone, nor am I really qualified to. I'm just saying that not everyone shares the same goals In fact mine are about the exact opposite of yours xD

I'm not a new age feminist, I actually consider myself pro mens rights when it comes to representation in the courts and in domestic abuse cases. I'm just a transgendered person. Unlike what some people seem to believe transgendered people don't all think the same thing or all go the same way politically. I'm actually pretty conservative when it comes to politics actually.

I respect your right to become masculine even if I don't personally want to do that. I just hope I can get the same respect in return. I'm not going to "recruit" or "steal away" anyone who's actually interested in this or anything if that's what you think

 

The ebook is no longer available!!

The book sounds interesting, but I spent so much on books recently that I just told myself to stop buying. Is it worth a buy or not? (Along with Mastery by Robert Greene and the other book, I have heard Mastery being recommended by many others).

 

My therapist also has suggested I consider a group but specifically steered me away from SA. Obviously, I don't know you or your situation and your therapist does, so take this with a giant grain of salt, but my guy doesn't think the 12-step approach works very well in trying to deal with all of the repercussions of sexual abuse.

 

I couldn't agree more. I feel the 12 step system is broken in that it claims recovery but there isn't really recovery since they also continue to call themselves addicts. When I had gone to the meetings in the past I felt as if the 12-step program itself became the addiction for many of the members. The belief that they couldn't survive without the program or their meetings. I felt the program kind of keeps people in a state of perpetual victimhood. This has just been my personal interpretation though. If some here have done the 12-step program with great success then more power to them.

 

I'm gonna re-read that book.

 

I just started reading this book. I wish I could stop being nice and kick my twin out of my house.

 

This book is interesting. No wonder I am a nice. My mom use to beat. She use to tell me she was going to kick me out of the house. Almost everything on the list that makes a guy nice my mom did to me.

 

I am happy for realizing that isn't a realy long journey to me. Always done what i want and told people the truth, sometimes I tell not the full history to not seem as a creepy stalker who's watching vampire diaries to understand what's on my cousin mind, but i realized that it may not be the best way to do things.
And doing everything alone isn't helpful, what a great discovery.
All I have left to say is if you are scared to do something because of failure, then fail today to succed tomorrow. The people who realy love you are the ones who are there for who you realy are and being fake will only attract more fakes.

 

Nice one, might have to have a look at that book.
I purchased "The Compound Effect" (I think from reading a recommendation of it off this site a while ago) and this has encouraged me to re-read it.
I found "The Compound Effect" super helpful for me, it broke down and made it simple and tangible to understand the effects of PMO for years on end have. And also makes success much more tangible, when realising how you can put 'The Compound Effect' into your fight against PMO. It's a super motivating book, and I like it for making something that feels like a massive task that you'll never be able to achieve (For me, NoFap) become a tangible goal and not as scary.

So if you're looking for any more reading material, I would recommend it! Each chapter lays out tasks for you to do and for you to track your progress on things, so it's good to give your mind something to do, keep your mind pre-occupied.

 

I wonder if I should try this with my twin. Putting my needs first instead of my twins. He is very nervous and says sorry all the time.

 

I have considered reading this book because I saw it being recommended at so many different places. But just the title puts me off and the free sample at Amazon didn't really help either...

 

Shame that so many people would rather ask people to do the work for them. I'm suspect of any self-help book, but if a book contains the roadmap, it's worth a peek. It's better than making a thread asking people to do something for you, as opposed to only needing the tools and carrying out the mission yourself.

 

The book says having mean Mom made me a Nice guy. My mom use to tell me I was a nothing as she whipped me.

They say fear of abandonment as a kid make a guy nice. I'm happy I have a nice dad or I would of been homeless