Opinion on real world women you see

Here's how I see it:

The problem we have is is a substance addiction...It is the specific pathway between PMO and dopamine. You will continue to release dopamine when you do exciting things in your life. Our mission involves strengthening those dopamine pathways, while eliminating the PMO -> Dopamine pathway.

Women are NOT the problem. Be careful you don't blame women for what is happening. If you have a complex about talking to women, do not conflate that with quitting PMO. Face the triggers as they come WITHOUT fear, not full of fear.

Some examples that come to mind about the fine line between triggers.
-An alcoholic can handle the sight of a beer can, but may not choose enter a bar full of it.
-A new vegan trying to go plant based can look at meat, but may not want to enter a beef kill plant.
-a PMO addict can talk to a woman, but will want to avoid a strip club, a whorehouse, or a massage parlor.

Let me know if that's helpful my friend. Posting here is the most important thing I do for my own PMO addiction.

 

Right on! I didn't mean to pass judgement or assume anything about you.

So I'll suggest as a general rule that you do not let yourself think about getting into someone's pants until they think about getting into yours. You will have much more success anyway, btw!

Again, I do think I'm right that the pathway of dopamine release from friendly/witty/smart/hot girl in front of you is completely different than the addiction release from digital display PMO.

On the other hand, there are sex addicts for whom the real life pathways are damaged.

 

I feel the ultimate goal is to increase actual human interaction and not just sexual gratification. Talking to women as people and not sexual objects is key. Porn programs the mind to see them only as a means to an end. Breaking this habit will have to be dealt with sooner or later.
Have no fear!

 

Bigbuford, I wondered something similar today. When I was in line at the post office, I saw an attractive woman walking away. She was nicely shaped, and I wanted to slip away and MO. In every day life, with women wearing yoga pants, short skirts and showing cleavage, I find it impossible to not become aroused. I have no intention of avoiding interaction though. I'm married and intend to stay that way, so there's no real need to interact anyway other than casual conversation. Best thing I've found is to just try to look away. Focus on your goal and remember why it's better to quit.

 

I avoid going to malls and beaches because I too find it impossible not to get aroused from leggings,yoga pants, and short shorts.