Its simple - you don't while rebooting

I'm sorry for the legal problems you have run into, but to be totally objective about your situation, dating during a reboot and PIED were not responsible for you getting a DUI. I feel that you need to own that it was a mistake you made regardless of your sex life. You might have to also consider whether alcohol is an issue for you that may need healing from too.

If healing for you means abstain from dating, then I think go for it. I hope things get sorted out with your legal problems.

 

I have to agree with @RedPillRebooter .
I have been down this reboot thing too many times and I have gone through through dating during it and without.
Dating will definitely put a dent on the reboot and ultimately lead to relapse.
That was the case for me, multiple times.

A lot of people say you shouldn't wait 30, 90 days to get a move on.
Well, guess what? Going ahead thinking you are cured because you made a week or more and feeling better doesn't cut it.

I'm not saying wait for eternity either. But, every guy who is addicted to Porn has problems which fapping has caused. Why not fix those problems before?
Believe me, having another person by your side won't make you happy if you were unhappy with yourself to begins with.
End of my ramble.

 

That is certainly true. I must say that I am often yearning for a girlfriend, I haven't been with a woman for almost three years, but deeper inside I always know about this.

Regarding the rest, I think it depends on what you define as "dating". By now I can say I don't want any sex without love anymore, and I would probably wait for the relationship to be serious, too. With this in mind, I don't see any problem with dating, although you need to be aware that emotions will come up and might trigger you. I should add that I also think my reboot might never be finished. I got to 8 months last year, and after I relapsed I had the feeling my reboot had only just begun.

 

But wouldnt having sex with a real partner instead of virtual shit (porn) improve the process of healing?
Any more experiences from people who had intercourse while healing?

 

To specify what I mean:
As I understand it, while watching porn sex is just simulated in the brain and is not happening because of stimuli through our senses.
But if those senses get trained through REAL senses in sex, it should contribute to the healing process, shouldnt it?

 

I think it's been said in other threads before, but really, your mileage may vary as it depends on your situation. For example, you could be having an active sex life but are not present in the sex and always fantasise about being with other women or porn stars. Cold turkey from sex could help in that situation.

 

So you think it would not help in my case and if so: why?
Case: watched porn for over 10 years. Now experiencing (realising) the bad effects and struggling to get trough my PMO challenge.

 

So where does your mind go during sex? Are you present in the moment or watching a porn scene in your head?
I'm having the same problem btw. And I think this is the key...

 

This is exactly why one does the reboot.
I can see the point you're making, but you also have to consider that most of us here have different levels of the problem (so to say).
You are absolutely right, if your sexing a woman and constantly thinking about some porn, you should take a break from all sexuality and set this straight again.

However, for many the problem might be other areas. Social Anxiety around strangers/women for example. That was it for me a lot. This is something that vastly improved (I'm currently around day 80ish noPMO hardmode).
For me however there is no problem going out dating, but dating doesn't neccessarily mean fucking. It's also the process of courting, going out, cuddleing over a movie all that stuff.
And a relationship is far more than just fucking each other.
You're also right that sexuality does not only not equal porn, it is actually something whole different (spiritually, not technically.) as it is far more intimate. You are at a point where you're pretty much the most vulnerable you'll ever get but at the same time so is your partner, and giving in to this enables you to enjoy yourself and your partner like you describe that what you have now. I like this way of putting it.

I'd go so far as to say that dating might even help you, especially if you're in the "long-time single" department.

 

Very well said!