Sexual Frustration (understatement of the year...)

Maybe expand your criteria for a partner?

 

Because you're still getting ready to be ready. You don't want to find a partner right now because she'll be just like you are. You want to continue building yourself into a high-value man that high-value women want to be with. So when you do that and you're confident, loving life, and feeling successful, you'll be right on time to meet someone that's also confident, loving life, and feeling successful.

That advice is if you want a loving relationship. If, and there's no judgement here, you want to have a fling, then just hit up Tinder or OK Cupid and you'll be laid before the weekend guaranteed.

 

I agree. I went through a period of loneliness years ago. I didn't fix the PMO, but I worked on a lot of other things. I got super fit. I started making it a goal to just talk to people. I decided to be talkative with no ulterior motive like hooking up. I listened to people, asked questions, took a genuine interest in them and stopped being so judgmental. It was amazing how my mood improved and how I felt less lonely. I also felt less needy. Do that and beat PMO and afterwards you'll really be able to connect with others.

 

I'd stay away from those sites, lots of scammers. Paid sites like match.com are much better. Avoid e harmony like the plague. E harmony is basically a waiting game. Fuck that site.

 

Dating sites (including Tinder etc) have probably made me more depressed than any other single thing over the last 3-4 years. All they have done is confirm my worst fears and amplify a hitherto suppressed sense of hopelessness; making me feel that I truly am beyond hope. So, unless you're fortunate enough to be very good-looking, I would avoid those like the plague.

To the OP I can only say that I feel your pain, can totally empathise with what you are going through, so you can at least rest assured that there is nothing strange about it, and that you are not alone.

 

Actually I would stay away from dating sites. At least the free ones. They're full of single moms or women that can create their own gravitational singularity.

Your inbox will be spammed with porn pics or escorts.

Even if you do see a cutie, you have to stop and think. Dating or sex is a supply and demand thing. Men, even if we are the best looking guys in the room, we still have to have "game".
We have to convince women we are worth their time. Nothing wrong with that, it's the way of the world.

However, women are the opposite. They have an endless supply of potential and horny suitors vying for their attention. If they wanted to, they could walk into a bar and shout "who wants it" and leave with somebody. Even the fat ones.

So this brings to mind that more than likely, a woman that has to resort to online dating is damaged goods and they're either using a dating site as a plan B for their current boyfriend (who is probably also a plan B) or their pictures are from 100 pounds ago.

I've even done reverse image searches to make sure people don't pop up on escort sites. None of them did but for example if they're using their dating profile pic as their Facebook pic, you can also see that it was uploaded 2-3 years ago.

 

Man, I totally understand. I'm on day 55 and my sexual radar is on "high alert" everywhere I go. Locked and loaded and ready to fire.

 

You are still rebooting bro. I know what you are talking about. Do not rush things. Let your emotions settle before you start thinking about girls again. At least wait until you have reached the 90-day milestone. Do you work out, meditate? How about reading? Focus on improving your life as much as possible so that when you reach 90 days you will be ready.

 

Excellent insight.