Desperate for Female Companionship

1-you know your mistakes, use that energy and hit the gym
2-ur symptoms of withdrawal are normal, (your uncontrollable urges don't give in)
3-become f*cking-datable. work on yourself. no-one is gonna be with someone who isn't happy by themseves.
you don't want to be a needy person desperate to get in a relationship. learn to love yourself first, so then you can have a friendship with the opposite sex.
4-You don't want to be attached to a woman and yes to your purpose in life, to god and your calling.. a woman will come eventually into your life if you are focused on yourself.
5- Sad moments depressions are normal, life is hard for everyone and in these hard moments we are pruned to withstand and become stronger versions of ourselves we sculpt ourselves into the persons we desire to become
6- Stay strong and work on yourself

 

don't be, there's nothing pathetic in what you have said,
your urges are pretty normal especially after you have stopped porn.
Your problems will be fixed in due time, Your weight, Your Job, Maturity and so will your life and mental stability. But first deal with things one at a time your life's purpose instead of your dick's.
When all these things have been resolved then god will send you a woman, without you even knowing it...

 

Man you just need to learn to get over that. Women can sense your desperation and it will just drive them away. If you continue your nofap and learn that your doing it to better yourself, not just to get pussy, then women might come along. Just wait like 30 days, and talking to a woman will come to you as naturally as breathing. Its in our blood, so i would just say to stay strong, and give it some time. Youll be alright, peace.

 

I agree with what the others said, it'd probably be wise to focus on getting your life together before worrying about women.

 

You can have conversations without being attracted to them. You can build your understanding and competence.

 

@jarvyjarvison , sounds like you are aware of your situation and are working well to improve it. You might do well to develop a hobby or an interest that you could discuss with women.
What would you like to define you?
What would you like them to remember you as?
He's the guy that _________. (Blogs about rescuing puppies. Cooks great Italian food. Has a record collection of classic rock music. Listens when you talk.)
It is great that you're removing painkillers and PMO, but those probably wouldn't be the best talking points over drinks in a bar. What do you like to do that you can talk about and develop into something more?

 

Your not pathetic my friend .

You are willing to grow & seek answers , That's far from being pathetic ...

 

Man, I know this situation. It's tough for sure and it's actually one I've been trying to deal with here and there as well when it comes up.

As difficult as it can be when the frustration is already overwhelming your mind... try to think of it from the girl's perspective. What's she going to think of a guy who comes off as desperate? What do you actually have to offer her? Not saying there isn't anything, I'm actually sure there is. But I bet that you are not particularly aware of what you have to offer, and I'm even more certain that you're not clearly and confidently projecting it to the women you're after.

Think about items on the grocery store shelf (whoops is this objectifying? but it's men in this case haha). Do they all have to put on a really deliberate show to get you to buy them? No. You buy them because they are ones that you've had before that reliably meet one of your needs... or if you're feeling adventurous you might buy one that is new and interesting and your intuition tells you might be good.

So moral of the story, focus on improving yourself first... but I know that's a tortured cliche and not enough. You want a girl. So real moral of the story, have a clear personality, something you naturally offer that is readily apparent, and she'll show up, the girl who needs it. The girl who needs you. Maybe she'll be desperate for you even.

 

Treat younger men as brothers, older women as mothers, and younger women as sisters, with absolute purity. as it should be
1 Timothy 5:2 to help you out on healing your skewed perspective, this is how it truly should be.

Unwind from all societal filth of seeing women as cum buckets.
Rearrange your perspective then maybe you'll be able to talk and carry a fruitful conversation with a woman, that happening after you have worked on yourself.
Earn It.

 

You are as far from Pathetic as someone could possibly be !!!

Pathetic is feeling like that, excepting it and not doing anything about it..

It takes courage to write what you did , use this.

Fight and move forward …. When you work on yourself, love yourself , be happy in your own skin the rest will come…

 

None of us has arrived. We are all in process, so we keep on keeping on and get better.
I would not suggest waiting until you were in great shape to start work on getting more social.
Are you a part of any group now?
Have you been in any group recently?
What groups do you know of that you could join?
Do you have contacts that could help introduce you to a group?
I'm not proposing a group of young male gamers.