A sad wife's journal

Why does the woman in the diet Coke ad get her friends to come look at the cute repair guy?

It's the law of attraction.

If you love him, support him and his recovery.

 

@OneSadYear
You are entitled to your bad day.
So are you Fred.
I think that coke ad is giving you a good excuse at the moment because you think alot of women do it too.
We don't.
Ads do influence us, however and this one, in reverse, is just showing that women can and should ogle.
No.
I'll pass on the dopamine drip thanks.
And diet coke ads are what's wrong with society.
They teach children it's ok to act like that growing up.
It's not.


Furthermore
If you are truly happy and attracted to your partner... That doesn't happen.
Unless that person is a addict.
Here's how I know.
I actually look like a P actress.
This is my real life.
"I'm not bad, I'm just drawn this way" - Jessica Rabbit
Yet, it applies to me.
It still didn't stop my partner for years.
He had to Want to quit.
Talk about giving me some mental problems!
But it doesn't matter what you look like, you will feel not good enough because what they were looking at is nothing like what they have at home.
Welcome to the forum and the club!
You aren't alone and you are among friends!

 

He is just an addict. Like the rest of us. And if he doesn't commit himself to NoFap and the community, he will probably stay as an addicted person.
This question is like, "Why can't a heroin addict chooses needles but not taking a walk in the nature? Its more fun and more healthy." Why can't people quit smoking? They know how unhealthy it is. Well, its simply because those are the only thing that makes people happy because they are addicted. Simple is that.
Addictions are so cruel and they are like nothing else.
He's been taking dopamine (happiness of life) from porn for so many long years. Please think, if someone just takes the only thing makes you feel alive and "normal", what would you do? Please, don't judge a person who has imbalanced brain chemicals. He just can't think this right. But maybe he can, with a little bit help and support.

 

Did you ever talk with him about Nofap and its benefits? Or bad effects of masturbating perhaps? I think if you somehow let him see it or visit yourbrainonporn.com etc, things may get better. Even if he refuse it and don't believe such effects (Refusing addiction) the matter would be in his mind/radar to see and relate the bad effects. Hope things get better very soon.