~Currently 8 Months in of NO PMO REBOOT. Ask Me Anything!~

Hey Boys,

So I wanted to take some time to provide any information for guys who are just starting out who may have some questions.

Bit about my Journey here:
Severe Porn addict for 8 Years, first started my journey early 2016, but didn't get into a long streak until towards the end of the year and into 2017. Been clean for 7 months now. I am 26 years old.

I've been through and experienced all the Ups and Downs of the reboot, the flatline, the withdrawals, the rewiring pains, the rewiring benefits etc.

All questions will be answered with a combination of my own personal experiences as well as any knowledge pertaining to the science of the REBOOT I know thus far.
My estimated Reboot Completion date is 15 months.

Best
Mateo

 

i didnt really have a method really but i can list a couple key things that helped.
1. i educated myself on the science behind reboot. how our brains become wired to porn and the stages of reboot. it really helped me to know what was going on in my brain when things were getting tough.

2. faith and constant affirmations. i would tell myself everyday im healed, i am great, i am worth it. constantly feeding positivity especially during days when things were not going well. over time you build a sort of mental fortitude.

3. ambition and desire.
i knew in my heart i had to get thru this reboot if i was going to get anywhere in my life. ive got a lot of things i want to do, so i thought about it daily and let it fuel me. master urself, master the world.

4. quit all social media, fb instagram, youtube etc. it was just a minefield of triggers and a colossal waste of time.

5. really focused on myself. i spent alot of personal time in reflection, learned to say no. and find out what i wanted in life.

6. meditation

as for wetdreams, it currently has not been an issue for me, but ive read from other rebooters that cold showers before bed and not arousing urself prior to sleep can help.

mateo

 

persistance and faith.
a lot of failures. a lot of mistakes. it took me a year of trying until i was able to really get the right mindset, attitude, wilpower whatever u wnna call it to get past 90.

recovery is a journey and isnt a one night overhaul. it took me years to get to rock bottom so i was ready to invest however long it took for me to get to where i wanted to be.

i made my recovery my number 1 priority and put 100% of my effort into it. i learned from mistakes, i did my research and battled thru the tuff times. and slowly over time my wiring improved enough to where i could go longer and longer.

so my best advise is to not be so hard on urself when u fail. dont binge and give up. pick urself back up and keep going.

mateo

 

a big thing i want to add is doing your research on the science of reboot and rewiring our reward system.
when i was feeling like crap i would rationalize my brain was undergoing withdrawals and is a required stage i need to undergo to be recovered. i envisioned what it would be like to be free from addiction, a healthy brain, motivated and fulfilled and that motivated me during tuff times

 

no, i estimate ill be 100% by 15 months. but at 7 months the worst is definately over. all of the reboot symptoms are wayy more manageable now, and im starting to experience rewiring benefits, like more energy, better mood, confidence etc. but i would say i will continue to see improvements up till 15 months.

mateo

 

people talk alot about the "benefits" of quitting pmo, and i think this idea is commonly misunderstood.
the simplest way i can explain this, is you feel how ur supposed to feel when ur not drugged up on pornography. u will feel the benefits of quitting a self destructove habit.
heres an example
if an obese person who was addicted to junkfood quit junk food, what would be the benefits? extreme weight loss, stabalized mood, stabalized health, better confidence, motivation etc.

its no different with porn. it is a destructive habit so obviously if u quit ur gnna feel better.
but other than normalizing u back to ur factory settings, there isnt really any "benefits". but in comparison to how u felt while u were addicted it will feel like a world of a difference, especially if u havent ever experienced it before.
because i was severely addicted for a while it took me 6 months until i noticed thesr positivr changes. and i also went thru a long flatline and felt like shiet most of the way. but i cant express how worth the journey was. ill list a few positive changes so far
1. increased energy stamina
2. increased confidence
3. look better, feel stronger
4. libido coming back more consistently

mateo

 

Early on my reboot:
1. Doing as much research as possible on the science behind reboot and addiction recovery. Yourbrainonporn, rebootnation etc.
2. Posting almost daily on the NoFap forums, on my experiences, and expressing my thoughts
3. Wrote down my affirmations and goals.
4. Developed a Kik group for No PMO called alphamale, and posted it on the forums. it has grown up to 50 members as of today and has been incredibly successful.
5. Prayer
6. Healthy eating
7. Relaxed as much as possible.
8. Daily journal logging my moods and thoughts

Later on in my reboot
1. Exercise
2. Meditation
3. Reading self improvement books
4. Vision Boards
5. Socializing
6. Preparing for life after reboot

Mateo

 

Something I found that worked really well for me was this.
Visualization and Misdirection.
--Instead of focusing my mind on a girl I saw was super attractive and submitting to that urge. I would purposely train myself to look away. I would close my eyes and visualize myself in my million dollar mansion, feeling like a king, and just uplifted myself and made myself feel super powerful. I would say affirmations like, "I run this place, Im a king," and it really gave me a sense of control. After I would do this, these "girls" didn't have as much of an effect on me. Rewiring yourself to be in control, not being controlled. Being the dominator, not the submitter. Alpha male.
--Sometimes you got to do the opposite of what your used to, in order to attain something uve never gotten before.
--If it ever came down to a point where I've decided to relapse (which was rare), I would at least make the effort of practicing mindfulness and doing purely MO with no fantasy, just touch. But only absolute worst case, and NEVER porn.

Mateo

 

Appreciate it, cheers

mateo