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So here I am

Discussion in 'Partner Support' started by Shockedbuddy, Jul 3, 2017.

  1. Shockedbuddy

    Shockedbuddy Fapstronaut

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    Yep
     
  2. Shockedbuddy

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    I'm actually starting to think that PMO not the issue and issue is me. That anyone except me would be okay.
    Maybe that's me absolutely crazy woman who has problems.
    My mind definitely is going to blow up
     
  3. Star Lord

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    You are not the problem. PMO has corrupted your husbands mind, and made him careless to you and your feelings, it's made him forget how lucky he is to have you.

    He's self obsessed with self pleasure and fantasising over unrealistic porn girls.

    You are not the problem.
     
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  4. Shockedbuddy

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    I can doubt that. Can't imagine him thinking about it at all
     
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  5. Star Lord

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    That's my point. Pmo has blinded him and made him FORGET how lucky he is to have you.

    He doesn't respect you :(
     
  6. Shockedbuddy

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    I'm not absolutely innocent, we had fights and some of them were really ugly.
    Probably he would be better off with someone who is able to tolerate everything he wants. As far as he were saying that I'm the only one who had problems with porn and pics and also he mentioned that it never was to that extent with someone else. Dunno.
     
  7. Star Lord

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    He's still using porn when you are his wife.
    You are 500+ days without porn, you've made the choice to devote yourself to him and give up an addiction. He still hasn't.
     
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  8. Shockedbuddy

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    I don't think that giving what we've been through he can maintain the idea that he is lucky. Basically he is suffering from the woman who is always in the way, get angry when see PMO thing and his ditachment because of that and so on.
    He is obviously sure that his life would be more fulfilling without me or whith someone more suitable.
     
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  9. Shockedbuddy

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    I barely was addicted, that just the last time as far as I remember I was checking out something. I don't have any cravings for that at all.
    I'm a sigarettes addict. I gave up as he asked me to 2 years ago with small amount of fails.
    For the last two weeks being dramatically stressed I've started again and now, knowing that stress won't go anywhere, gave myself 1 month to got rid of it again.
     
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  10. Star Lord

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    Why blame yourself?

    Even if that were true, it's only true because he still looks at porn.
    If he stopped watching porn, you would have no need to worry. But he chooses porn over you :(
     
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  11. Shockedbuddy

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    It sounds insane, but it's exactly what is going on now.
     
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  12. Star Lord

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    He's so stupid for choosing this path.
     
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  13. Shockedbuddy

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    I thought it was 2 weeks ago.
    Maybe he won't have it. Not with me.
    He is pretty good in finding bad sides in any person, so I think he'd take himself that me leaving is all good
     
  14. Star Lord

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    Stop running yourself down.
     
  15. Star Lord

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    If only he knew just how much he's hurt you.
    The bigger question is does he have remorse.
     
  16. Shockedbuddy

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    I doubt there is any more down that I feel now :)
     
  17. Star Lord

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    His mistakes are not worth your sadness.
     
  18. Shockedbuddy

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    *Not a big deal
    *I don't care
    That's usually the answers
     
  19. Shockedbuddy

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    Yeah, you are right.
    I'm getting into "if only I could be better" thing and "if I would be this and that he won't be so cruel to me"
     
  20. Star Lord

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    Then he's dug his hole.
    What are your thoughts?
    Do you still love him after all this?
     
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