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savedandhealing Public Jan 9, 2018

Hi, everyone. I need your help and advice as I progress down the road of recovery. I am 28 and have been married for about 5 years, I have struggled with porn addiction and have cheated on a few occasions in emotionless one time encounters. These were basically anonymous encounters that did not involve vaginal sex, once a bj and the other few times a hj (cheating none the less). As I have matured I’m realizing that I’m living for so much more and no longer want to be burdened by this guilt and sorrow. Recently I prayed and asked for god to save and forgive me of my sins. I have been working hard to beat this addiction and read scripture. I read various things about if I should tell my wife or not. I never plan on going down this road again and the acts were emotionless and I believe fueled by the issues I was having with porn. I’m working hard on my marriage, but I still wonder if I should tell her. I’m not sure of the benefit. What would you all recommend, I read so many various opinions on whether to tell or not. I truly believe God has worked in my life and made me a changed man. I plan on working hard to keep this up, just not sure if I should leave this in the past. I read that I am freed from my past sins and to not be burdened by them. What is your all’s opinions? Thank you

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savedandhealing

savedandhealing

I will need to continue to strengthen my relationship with God, which I believe in turn strengthens my relationship with my wife. I’ll pray and reflect on it.

savedandhealing

savedandhealing

I do believe honoring my wife is leaving it in the past though and moving forward as a couple.

Gav5

Not everyone is strong enough to handle issues associated with sexual sin. Women think about things in very different ways. While you yet struggle in other areas it may be overwhelming to you to add this issue.

Gav5

I can only tell you that I revealed some of my sexual indiscretions to a church brother who I was close to who from that point distanced himself. The relationship has not been the same since.

Gav5

Not saying that similar circumstances lead to the same results but it taught me a lesson. Wisdom is the principal thing Prov. 4:7.

Gav5

We do not know the full details of your relationship. Seek pastoral advice and pray about it. But hold off for now until you are a bit stronger. God will guide you.

Gav5

Thanks for sharing your confession. My mother remained and loved my father till death despite his indiscretions of which I am pretty sure she knew. God bless.

savedandhealing

savedandhealing

Thank you Gav5 for your reply, it is certainly very emotionally tough!

Romans12:1

This is a very difficult issue. From experience I can say keeping things from a spouse is extremely damaging to a relationship. You may push it to the back of your mind but it affects how you treat them.

Romans12:1

John 3:20 Everyone who does evil hates the light, and will not come into the light for fear that their deeds will be exposed.... place yourself in her shoes, would you want to know the truth or live a lie?

Shin Iu

https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.p...e-ult-reason-bhd-relapse.145621/#post-1188994

Gav5

@savedandhealing intellect and opinion cannot help you here, neither debating doctrinal positions. Scriptures define an appointed time "kairos" in greek. May God guide you as to when that is.

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savedandhealing

savedandhealing

@Gav5 can you elaborate on what you mean about the appointed time? And I agree, I have gotten so many differing opinions it has made my head spin! I will need to bathe this in prayer.

Gav5

@savedandhealing When Jesus said things like "my time is not yet come" e.g. John 7:6-8 it refers to a specific moment in time when He was to be crucified.

Gav5

Ecclesiastes 3:1 To every thing there is a season, and a TIME to every purpose under the heaven:

Gav5

Doing what you think is right at the wrong time can have unintended consequences.

Gav5

Examine Proverbs 26:4-5. The same scriptures that tell not to answer a fool according to his folly tells you in the next verse to answer a fool according to his folly.

Gav5

Widom is to know when each action is to be taken my brother. Pray the LORD for wisdom... He will give it to you and guide you on you way. Be blessed in Jesus name. Amen.

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Akaikenga

Hello brother

Akaikenga

My brother in Christ

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