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Welcome. I hope it is useful for you

Thanks for joining in.
It's a complex world out there, and we've all got unique stories to tell.
I would be interested to know more about why you don't think there is a relation between SP and TGism. Did TGism start first? I know I started CDing before looking at SP, but I don't see CDing as leading me to TGism (I'm not trans).

I’ll try to elaborate. SP came before TGism (I think, anyway), but that’s not the whole story. When I started really feeling it hard, I had already gone without SP for awhile, and had done a week of noFap, my longest streak at the time. The other reason is that I’ve looked at a couple posts by SP addicts who thought they were trans, and I feel completely different to what they describe. They talk about how they fel

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They talk about how they felt like being a girl would be so much better than being a guy, and felt depressed about their masculinity. I feel none of that. I don’t feel like I want to be a girl. I feel like I am one already. I can almost feel breasts and a vagina on my body, even though they aren’t there. Maybe that’s crazy, but here’s the thing. I’ve then gone and talked to other trans people, and they talk about feeling the same things I feel. I’m still kind of paranoid that this is just SP messing with my head, but I don’t think that’s the case anymore.

Thanks for sharing @Becoming Jasmine. It's interesting how we all come to NoFap from different angles. I suppose to differentiate your position from my position, I've "imagined" or visualised in my-mind's eye similar things, but only because it was a way to somehow arouse me sexually as an aid to or alternative to PMO. Therefore I don't see myself as TG, I just see it like a self-imposed TG fetish I have a propensity towards. One of the main reasons I started NoFap was to 'escape' from this fetish, which is similar to SP, or if I can't escape it, at least not be reliant on Fapping to get through the troubles of life.

Ok. Now I’m pissed. I just wrote two-TWO! Replies to both of you: St A and Becoming Jasmine. Keeping it Telegraph short now! St A- great reply- agree. Becoming Jasmine- welcome your perspective. Gain some distance from “porn intoxication” and you’ll know that any decision you make has been made with a “healthy brain”. Either way, I support you 100%. You bring valuable insight to the group.

The replies were toooo looong!

I think that something all sP addicts share is sexualizing becoming a woman. Part of the fetish is being aroused and masturbating to the thought of being a woman or doing feminine things, even if they're not sexual; being a woman is sexually stimulating. If you never have been stimulated by the idea of being a woman, then you may be transgender, which is totally fine.

It's good to talk to people here to figure things out, but the best would be to talk to doctors (2 at least, multiple would be best, to get varying opinions) and to others who are questioning or confirmed transgender. Being a woman shouldn't make you feel aroused or want to PMO, it should feel wholesome and right and who you're meant to be.

Also people on this site (myself included) are not professionals on this subject, so it may be good to talk to some actual professionals haha.

Roughly how much porn (of any kind) do you consume and how often?

I don’t look at much these days. I’ve done a somewhat decent job of avoiding it these past few months. I did join a Discord earlier this month month with porn, but I left it a couple weeks ago. I’ve also had an issue with talking to people intimately about my sexual fantasies. It basically just ends up replacing erotic fiction, which is mainly what I’m addicted to. I’ve stopped doing that since yesterday though. I cut ties with the person who did it with me.

Yeah be careful who you private message with. I too was recently contacted by someone who was looking to perpetuate the problem rather than fix it. No time for that BS.