Post published by Puppy

That's actually not too bad. Just don't make similar mistakes again. Now you know where you're weak; make that area of your mind stronger so this situation won't happen or even arise again. I think something important that gets glossed over on this site is not only staying away from PMO, especially sP in our case, but also working towards something. PMO and sP disabled me from finishing during sex, or even enjoying it, so I am going on a streak of no PMO, really no stimulation there at all, even from a partner, in order to be able to have pleasurable sex and finish.

The streak is not the goal, it's the way of getting to your goal. Without a goal this will be hard. Discern what PMO and sP has done negatively to you, tell yourself you're gonna get it back, and then use the streak to get there. If having a streak is you're only goal, you will always fail, because your mind knows you can always relapse, and then just start another streak. Find your goal and work toward it through no PMO.

I agree with @modernstore99 here. Surely the end game as he says is to get back to a functioning sexual relationship with a partner not some arbitrary streak of undefined amount of days? I get that at 90 or so days there will be benefits but I think everyone will be different here. If you can achieve your goal at 1day or 365 days that's what's important surely. Concentrate on the end result not the streak as the streak count is kind of irrelevant compared to the end result. Pick yourself up and conquer this bitch!

@Nwmat1138 I agree. Personally I don't keep track of my streak day to day, even when I log on here. I gained inspiration from NoFap to stop PMO, and now use it mostly to look for tips and guidance in reclaiming my sexual life. The streak isn't important to me; what's important is obtaining a healthy, fulfilling, and pleasurable sexual relationship.

I’ve been there - hundreds of times. Or as I like to say - I’ve had a thousand day one’s. Today is Day 22 for me; it’s better. My girlfriend may come visit this weekend and frankly it scares me.

@SLAA1 I hear you and I feel the same but if you've told her everything surely she's there for you and will wait till you feel comfortable and ready? I feel like once i'm back in that zone and functioning as I used to hopefully that'll be it and I can look forward only...fingers crossed!

Thank you! She knows I’ve got porn issues and honestly has never complained about my performance - ever. I’m just in a good space - then again we might have a great time. So instead of me thinking negatively, I’m gonna try to embrace it. On another note, I’ve GOT TO KEEP CHECKING IN ON THIS SITE EVERY DAY.

As for @Puppy - HANG IN!

Hi dude. It sucks that you relapsed but wow i have to applaud to your honesty and persistance. You admited that you failed and you're willing to fight again. I almost relapsed just yesterday and im not sure if i could face it with your courage. So great job and this time it will be for lifetime

@Puppy notice the important key term in @Foxhole comment...“for lifetime”. This is not about the streak it’s about changing your life for the better. Some people can handle P in moderation, others can’t...the important thing is to recognize which category you fall into. What I think we’re all ultimately after is rich fulfilling lives where we can handle the good times and the bad times in a healthy way. In no way does relapsing make you a failure but realize that the important thing is that you felt, as you said, the “superpowers” of abstaining from P. Now build on that and know you control your life.