Post published by DomHope

Ok, so firstly if that is a real picture of you, you dont seem effeminate. Now if you had on makeup and all that then I would agree. I do not believe God makes anyone gay, but because we have a sinful nature that affects our physical bodies, it can manifest in everything from homosexuality to alcoholism.

Here is what is awesome. The Devil, those demons, cant force you to do any of that. They can only offer you a choice that is why it's called temptation, because you will always have the option to walk away from it.

Yes I am, beig effeminatz doesn't only mean to put girls stuff on ourselves but does mean how you act, how you speak, how you move etc ...

Sure I have the option to walk away from it, but I don't have the option to me manly, masculine and heterosexual as boys should be ...

What is your definition of a masculine heterosexual man?

God created you with a penis therefore, genetically, physically you are a man. Therefore your intentions should be towards a woman not a fellow man. This is how it should be, how it is deep inside you, unfortunately it's been covered up by something.

If it was how you were actually created, you wouldn't be here. Unless you are troll and here just for attention.

That is the second time that you think that I am here just to get attention but that is totally false, it is absolutely wrong, I am here because I see that you are all people who pray and help others, that's why i am here ...

Yes I am a man, that is clear and yes my heterosexuality has been covered by something really strong ... to me, a masculine man is someone who acts like a man, someone that you see and can tell he's a man even without knowing his sex exactly

I don't need attention if that's what you meant this two times, I need help and beg someone to help me, that is all ...

Ok. I was just checking your honesty. My advice is this 1) you KNOW that what you are doing and the way you are living is wrong, so leave it behind you 2) start trying out things to discover and developed the man within you: lift weights, try out sports, get out in nature. There are tons of positive manly things out there that dont revolve around sex and pornigraphy. Stop saying you cannot and start doing. If you are going through hell, keep on going.

3) You need to get you a positive, spiritual role model. A priest, a pastor, a Male mentor. From what I have gathered, you seem to have come from a Female dominated household? So I think that this is where the covering up of your hetero has come from.

4) Realize that just because you are HOMOEMOTIONAL does not mean you are homosexual. We as young men crave the adulation and encouragement and brotherhood that can only come from an older Male who has earned his way into the pack. It is what encourages us to become active , forceful, dominant men in society. It encourages us to earn our spot.

5) I imagine that growing up, you also related to girls better and seemed to understand and get them better than guys. This may also have contributed to your hetero being covered up. Also take heart that just because you understand women better than men does not make you homosexual, it actually makes you more compatible for a woman because you can understand them better. Women are confusing creatures. It gives those of us who relate better to females an edge I think.

6) I dont think that your liking girl things is as bad as many think. I like jewelry, rings, bracelets, necklaces. I take care to make sure that I smell good. I am make sure my beard is cleaned . I like blue jeans and nice pair of cowboy boots. I like looking good. I talk with my hands. It is how I Express myself. I dont have the deepest voice in the world but whatever.

If you like looking good look good like a man. If you like jewelry wear the jewelry appropriate for a man. You may not have deep voice but talk with presence and authority. You may be expressive or get excited, do so as a man does. You liked certain things when you were younger, but unfortunately somewhere along the way someone defined you for you. And that definition turned out to be one you dont want.

You are not being untrue to yourself, but uncovering your true self by making these changes. It is possible. I've faced these demons before.

I'll pray for you at Holy Mass today bro

"My past, O Lord, to Your mercy; my present, to Your love; my future to Your providence." St. Padre Pio

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