Post published by jobbyj

once i saw a cognitive therapist who said, "you just have to choose that you will stop, and just stop". Easier said than done - that was about 18 years ago and the number of times.....

I see a therapist every week. It has been extremely useful. It's talk therapy, not CBT, which is what I need. Expensive though, at £40 a week. I don't think anyone stands a chance of kicking it unless they seek professional help.

I think unfortunately it depends a lot on circumstance. I am a student and at my campus I was lucky enough to have free counselling sessions, which are part of the reason I'm using nofap now. My counselor was brilliant but it does seem to vary from case to case. While not every one may 'get it', if you have the chance I would say its worthwhile trying to find a counselor or therapist that you feel you have confidence in, because you will be able to get the impartial advice of someone trustworthy who has no further connection in your life other than to help you with your issue.

Thanks. I paid for a cbt professional, but as i have underlying trauma linked to my addiction, he wasnt useful as he kept trying to work on surface level stuff when it was clear there were other drivers. now seeing someone else, and its helping but still not fully sure

Do you think then, there is a need for more porn specialists? or at least men who can deal with it, because i have sat infront of a couple of women, and they dont have a clue

There does seem to be a real lack of knowledge about the issues of PMO addiction. Some can write it off entirely, some as you say don't have a clue about how serious it can be. Even things like group (depending on your taste) are really thin on the ground as in there just aren't the numbers available for proper discussion. I would think more targeted porn specialists is the ideal, but at the moment they're too expensive and too rare. What is needed is just a more basic understanding of the issues PMO can cause.

Glad to hear the new person you are seeing is working out well. As I said before, I feel I got very lucky, my therapist was a Woman but completely understood it. That's the real difficulty with therapy, unfortunately a lot of it seems to be down to luck.