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Post published by goodnice 2.0
i relapsed today with pmo after 8 months without M. I looked at P for like 8 hours. Didn’t sleep much. Made poor choices searching on my phone, and finally caved. I feel useless and i realize i haven’t been able to stay away from P for longer than a few weeks lately. i’m just at a loss as to why even after all this time and thinking i was finally free that this still haunts me, and i know i will surely reap the consequences of my horrible decisions and lust
I think relapse can be a good thing if you learn from it, but i feel like I have ruined my entire future now and all my hopes and dreams all for nothing.
I am really busy during the week and so i always get really tempted during the weekend, as i have some down time to relax. Also i had been fantasizing lately about sex with some college girls and I tried not to but i did and that made temptations much harder
How do i maintain a daily relationship with God? What should i do moving forward? How do i avoid P?
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isaacgull
Well for one, don't think that God is angry at you right now because in reality, you're trying to move forward, so he is on your side. The Lord knew that you were gonna fall today. He also knows the plan for you, and it's wonderful. So keep moving forward alright? Don't get too worried because I've gone three days in a row relapsing sadly... And I've been feeling a huge pull since my last relapse to return back to God. It's gonna be hard, but I'm sure he knows what's best for us.
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goodnice 2.0
alright thank you isaac. I have a journal titled “okay i will give it everything” that i wrote in from day 1 of my streak till like day 100 something. You might find it helpful, as i tried to help others when writing down some of my thoughts
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isaacgull
I have a journal of my own called "The War on My Soul" if you want to check it out
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frogs2345
First, pray about this. Ask God for help and strength. Ask for people in your life to help you. Next, read your Bible and study it. Do Bible studies and read books to immerse yourself in the word. I recommend Hide or Seek, by John Freeman and Crazy Love, by Francis Chan.
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frogs2345
Pray daily as well, since if you were in a relationship with a woman, would she like it if you only spoke to her when you needed something? Pray for other people too. Ask to pray for them or about their lives and offer to pray.
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frogs2345
Avoiding porn is not the main goal. Seeking God is. Read Matthew 12:43-45. Getting bad out is no good if good is not put back in. When you are full of God and satisfied with what he gives you, you will not seek porn. The goal is heart change, but some physical action is needed while working on the heart.
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frogs2345
Find something to fill your time. Go outside, read books, spend time with friends. A good rule of advice is avoid screens. But there are plenty of things you can find to do that can occupy your time and build good habits that aid you in this area. Also, Check out Fortify.
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reddyyfreddyy
You are only human - not perfect. We make mistakes - lots of them. I would pray for Forgiveness, and also do your best to forgive yourself. Doesn’t make it right, but humbles us and acknowledges we are fallible. You are improved after 8 months - not ruined in one day. This is about way more than your day counter. This is your Every day for life. You know better now. Therefore you are better for achieving 8 months. Now take that knowledge and the new you and go for a year with 1/365 and know you are winning.
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St3v0
Just listened to a sermon that said. If you are in Christ you are not as bad as your last sin and you are not as good as your last good deed. You are perfect as Christ sees you.
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James77
Goodnice sorry to hear the same happened to me last night I relapsed at day 3. I got this huge urge to masturbate last night after fighting with it for an hour or two I relapsed. I didn't watch porn but masturbatedThe positive is that I didn't watch porn but I am very dissapointed. I want to set up some better strategies this time. Day 3 is usually the worst for me. The book by Josep Prince Grace Revolution helps me
Starting at 0 again for the 90 day challenge
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HigherPower72
Sorry, brother, I know how overwhelming it can be after a relapse, but you will rebound as intended. Unfortunately, our enemy is lurking around every corner and waiting methodically to strike. This is the reality of an addiction to PMO. That said, I have found it to be beneficial to stay "plugged in" to the philosophy of NoFap, never stray far from the path. Blessings to you.
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