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Post published by Timetoquit78

I’ve passed the 30 day mark of no PMO/standard mode. It’s been a rough 6 days after hitting the 30 mark. My question has to do with day dreaming about sex with my wife. I feel like this is normal and not a bad thing, but it’s making it hard to stay away from P. That use to be one of my triggers.Rubbing/massaging/scratching my wife’s back is something I’ve always enjoyed doing, but it does lead me to think about sex which can take me down a dark path. Do I stopmassaging and day dreaming about my wife? Or do I find ways to dealwith it not associated with P?
SEAVIEWS more_vert
SEAVIEWS
If it's your wife only, it's not a sin. Whatever you do, do it with her. Also refrain from everything for 90 days. After that the mind usually rewires the pathway and you will stop being obsessed with sex. Don't watch porn. Don't masturbate. Have sex but don't orgasm. Whatever you do just don't watch porn. It's the only thing blocking your benefits. It's not natural. Exercise and enjoy time outdoors. Sex is important but balance your hobbies.
Tao Jones more_vert
Tao Jones
I have committed to no sexual thinking apart from the physical presence of my wife. Daydreaming about sex with her when she is not there is not all that different from P. At least I have never found it to be profitable. If doing so takes you down a dark path, then stop!

As for what you do when you are together, as long as she is okay with it and knows where it is heading, then that sounds fine. :)
Timetoquit78 more_vert
Timetoquit78
You always have great answers Tao. I’m going to work on daydreaming about my wife. Hopefully that will help me see her more as a wife and less as a sex object as well.
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