It kills me thinking about my daugters lives and my son who may not ever experience a loving relationship between his parents. It is terrible and worth a lot of fighting. I just dont see us getting any better yet.
Nice job on 50 days bro. I would say that for me i had a freak trigger where a group of girls pulled up to me at a stop light and were flirting with me on my way to saa right after i got in a bit of a fight with my wife. Bad timing. For me, that situation was extremely triggering. I hadnt...
Thanks link, i wish my story was different. One thing is certain, i built this situation. I wont try and blame her. There is only one person here that caused this.
That is good trying not to trigger her. I dont know if i am at a place to give advice, but i would say it is more important what you do when she is triggered. That is where i failed. If you can be a safe person during a trigger that could save your relationship. Because i cannot do that...
My wife asked me to move out tonight. not a good day. She said she wants it to be like when we separated before. IDK if I can do that. I may go crazy. It felt like we were finally climbing out of that hole. I don't know if I can willingly go back into it the same way.
I relapsed really bad this weekend. Binged, m'd like 10+ times. I got super drunk saturday night. I may have broken the marriage for real. Snatching defeat out of the jaws of victory. I felt possesed, like i was not the one driving my own behaviors.
The truth is. I had a choice. That is truth...
Thursday. "I never quite got the hang of thursdays"
Name that quote without googles help and I will give you 1000 1dayattatime points haha.
Today I messed up a lot of things at work. Just one of those days. It was weird though because I wasn't judging myself for it like I have in the past. I...
My trip was awesome. My SO and I went through some conflicts, but were able to resolve them and not escalate. Now when we get home we struggle again. On the trip we saw a pod of grey whales feeding just off the shore at low tide. It was so cool. I always feel like the ocean puts my problems into...
I just got back from a week at the beach and man that place sooths my soul. It calms me like nothing else can. I will post more later. Hope everyone is doing well!
Im not sure what "boss" stage is?
the expectation that that i will know what she needs without her expressing it is not realistic.
To be fair, she has expressed a lot of her needs that i just did not do as well so I have some ownership in this specific part of our relationship.
Today was a long day. I woke at 4am and had to drag my tried butt out of bed to get to work. We decided to work 5 to 1:30 this week as it is super hot here right now. I ended up working until 4. So I caught some of that afternoon heat anyways. Most of the day was nice though. My wife and I have...