Batty Belfry
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Batty Belfry

Fapstronaut, Male, 26, from United States of America

May 11 2022 - Phone call from same girl I met. My "date" was her professional meeting. I didn't ask if she wanted a relationship. What now? May 11, 2022

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    1. Batty Belfry
      Batty Belfry
      May 11 2022 - Phone call from same girl I met. My "date" was her professional meeting. I didn't ask if she wanted a relationship. What now?
    2. Batty Belfry
      Batty Belfry
      May 4 2022 - First date in 6 years. She came early to study. Helped write her apps. Both introverted, talked for six hours over coffee.
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      2. Surge95
        Surge95
        That's great stay forward !
        May 5, 2022
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      3. Kingfisher
        Kingfisher
        May 5, 2022
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        Batty Belfry
        May 5, 2022
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    3. Batty Belfry
      Batty Belfry
      April 27 2022 - Working this summer, saving and paying off debt. Getting a FT job. Grateful to be of good use. Keep on the right direction.
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      3. Batty Belfry
        Apr 27, 2022
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      4. silex_jedi
        silex_jedi
        thank you. so ok: fingers crossed for the job!
        Apr 28, 2022
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      5. Batty Belfry
        Batty Belfry
        Apr 28, 2022
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    4. Batty Belfry
      Batty Belfry
      April 25 2022 - People who don't care never make the world better. Care when no one else does. Care to do better, to do right in the world.
    5. Batty Belfry
      Batty Belfry
      April 22 2022 - Don't be afraid to put yourself out there. Dating is pruning; cut out the worst, be your best, get the best. Take it slow.
    6. Batty Belfry
      Batty Belfry
      April 19 2022 - A week of no PMO is very noticeable after having gone months without it before. The energy and resolve I have is palpable.
    7. Batty Belfry
      Batty Belfry
    8. Batty Belfry
      Batty Belfry
      April 16 2022 - Coworkers are small-talking, brainwashed lackeys. The students are unparented, misguided ingrates. New job and peace soon.
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    9. Batty Belfry
      Batty Belfry
      April 8 2022 - My 110-day streak is broken, but I'm not. I have good things in my life. I need to get out of my head. Move forward.
    10. Batty Belfry
      Batty Belfry
      April 3 2022 - Bad case of temptation last night/this morning, but I fought back, didn't give in. Eyes on the future, not the past.
      1. TheRevenant
        TheRevenant
        These tend to occur even after 100 days but it's not worth it. I recently relapsed after a 140 days streak of no PMO. Thought I'd relapse once and start another streak right after. But this almost never happens. We start to get stuck in the cycle again. I kept relapsing for a month and half but I'm back on it again. +30 days. Don't make the same mistake I made.
        Apr 3, 2022
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      2. Batty Belfry
        Batty Belfry
        @TheRevenant Thank you for the support. I'm glad to have your voice among others to help me here. I will keep going and best to you moving forward.
        Apr 3, 2022
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      3. TheRevenant
        TheRevenant
        Anytime, glad to be of help.
        Apr 4, 2022
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    11. Batty Belfry
      Batty Belfry
      April 2 2022 - Keeping a healthy BMI of 21, whitening my teeth naturally; kids spot insecurities like nobody's business. Steady PT jobs.
    12. Batty Belfry
      Batty Belfry
      March 22 2022 - Asked out coworker for coffee; she said "it would be inappropriate." Cordially unfortunate, but I'm glad I asked. Forward.
    13. Batty Belfry
      Batty Belfry
      March 12 2022 - Don't let fear interfere with your goals. Move slow, see where you're going, what you're doing. One thing at a time. Love.
    14. Batty Belfry
      Batty Belfry
      March 4 2022 - Saw a matinee of The Batman. More crime drama than psychological thriller with solid action scenes. I give it a B for Batman.
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      Batty Belfry
      February 19 2022 - "Work in your 20s, be comfortable in your 30s" is a theory I practice. A relationship would be welcomed work though. Soon
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      2. vxlccm
        vxlccm
        40s may be the best years of your life.
        Mar 4, 2022
      3. Batty Belfry
        Batty Belfry
        I will take your word for it @vxlccm Feel free to share your experience, I enjoy learning through others' eyes.
        Mar 4, 2022
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      Batty Belfry
      February 11 2022 - Got a haircut too short, molted chicken short. Need to know the right clipper sizes for next time. PT jobs going well.
      1. Deleted Account
        Deleted Account
        Can't go wrong with a guard 3 for top and guard 1 for sides and back and guard 2 in between 1 and 3 for a smooth fade
        Feb 11, 2022
      2. Batty Belfry
        Batty Belfry
        Thank you for the guidance, @Whispers I keep it medium on top and a little less than medium on the sides. I remember going for a 5 or 6 on top and a 2 or 3 on the sides. My hair grows back fast, but for now, I'm getting used to feeling aerodynamic like a pilot. I go for a business haircut or something close to Samuel Beckett's hair.
        Feb 12, 2022
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      Batty Belfry
      February 7 2022 - Thankless work is drudgery or a gift. When the job is said and done, you can feel entitled or grateful. Mind over matter.
      1. Deleted Account
        Deleted Account
        Always seek validation from yourself for stuff like this, you know you did good work, be happy with the effort you produced, that's your energy that you transmuted into product, nice.
        Feb 7, 2022
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      2. Batty Belfry
        Batty Belfry
        @Whispers exactly my friend. I always try to be on the upbeat. It can be a challenge when juggling part-time jobs, but it keeps me focused and I make connections where I would not expect them. The right people will notice and those that aren't in the right may become right themselves.
        Feb 8, 2022
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      Batty Belfry
      January 16 2022 - Stay on your purpose. The rest will follow. You can't afford distractions and distractions can't afford you. Work on you.
    19. Batty Belfry
      Batty Belfry
      December 24 2021 - Spending holidays alone. Developing self with solitude and study. Challenging Podcasts: Lewis Howes + The Unplugged Alpha
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      Batty Belfry
      19 November 2021 - 481 days clean but made an oopsie. It's back to the drawing board but I have learned a lot about myself. I will do good.
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    Gender:
    Male
    Birthday:
    Nov 20, 1995 (Age: 26)
    Location:
    United States of America
    Occupation:
    Writer
    Hello NoFap members,

    This is Batty Belfry joining you on the rebooting and retention lifestyle. I started watching pornography since I was 17 and have handled my sexual urges better, but not completely, in my early twenties.

    I recognize that I am attracted to women and for more than just their physique. I have friendships with women and have never had a relationship with a woman. The problem I feel and think I have is that I attract women in a way that has no sexual intentions, even though I am still sexually attracted to women.

    I understand that to know the person first is necessary to starting, building, having, and maintaining a relationship. I understand there is more to life than just sex, but of course, there would be no life without it.

    Humor aside, my circumstances (my conservative, religious, small town upbringing, for example) have taught, if not dictated, my approach to sexuality and relationships.

    My goals for and beyond NoFap are to:

    - Control emotional and physical responses.
    - Balance sexual urges with nonsexual activity.
    - Have meaningful, healthy, not regressive, relationships.

    To achieve these goals, I have written five core values:

    - Validation

    I am living proof that life in me and through me will carry purpose without the approval of others; unless it should make them better to have been inspired or advisory as my witness.

    How I approach my happenings and callings will be discerned by my character and by those who know my character. I choose myself not over another, but in the hope that I can become selfless.

    To the point of precipitation, may I cast rains of my good fortunes, whether it be a downour or a drop, so that it may be absorbed again and be shed once more for the people with and without clouds over their heads.

    Knowing the backs of my hands as well as the bottoms of my feet is my journey. Moving forward while standing still is my destination. Validation begins and ends always with the self.

    - Authenticity

    The true self presents itself through concrete changes in that my aims are not self-defeating. Self-discovery and self-awareness are the pours on the skin of authenticity.

    Being born anew is a constant exercise of the soul imbedded in the words and acts closely woven and to be worn as a diligent wardrobe. I will not only dress the part but will become the part I was made for.

    However, like a wardrobe, authenticity is not without divergence. There are many accessories that on the surface seem disingenuous and gaudy to the beholder, but as the wearer, it is a statement more than fashion only I can wear. Authenticity is the magician without his magic; the trick is to tell and to live the truth.

    - Love

    The matters of the heart think with a self-respecting emotional intelligence. It does not project selfish indulgence or pump empty promises that can only lead to bad blood. True love is a love of the self which translates to a common love for others.

    I hold a caring disposition in fear that no one cares at all and in strength that I still care despite being my own or part of the minority. It is a dangerous thing not to care, for there is no love where there is no care.

    The true exception revolves around self-love, where care must be placed on not only the little things but on the larger than life concerns set out for myself. Loving myself will find love in new places and faces who double the love to be had.

    - Originality

    Inspiration and aspiration, invention and reinvention, are distinct equals in the case of creation. As a creator, I will not rely on derivative platitudes or cluttering cliches as adequate expressions or explanations.

    Rather, the moments where I find lacking will force my unconscious feelings to become conscious thoughts and words for memories in the making.

    My ideas will be my own while accepting their close inspirations and far aspirations. To be original, I must practice while not succumbing to perfection and focus on fulfilling my good intentions and turn them into
    good actions.

    - Routine

    I will not have my hands be made idle. My work will become my play and when need be I will find the necessary separation of the two. I will shape a world of stagnation into one of dedication.

    Time will not be determined by the clock's hands but by the willingness of mine. Seconds or a century, my goals will not bend unlike my mode of operation. How I reach my successes wanes in the shadow of my reach still being done. I have a diligent and flexible work ethic that does not fall into mundanity, but rises through creativity.

    I will meet every day with sights on the next day so that I may say the days before me meant well and the days ahead of me mean better. On my last day, if I should have the company of one, it will have meant my trials and errors amounted to the continuous power of a hopeful routine.

    Thank you for learning more about me, and I look forward to adding more value to an already invaluable community,

    Batty Belfry

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