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Batty Belfry
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Batty Belfry

Fapstronaut, Male, 28, from United States of America

Almost 4 months straight then stress. Restarting and staying on the good path. 4/18/2024 Apr 18, 2024

Batty Belfry was last seen:
May 9, 2024
    1. Batty Belfry
      Batty Belfry
      Almost 4 months straight then stress. Restarting and staying on the good path. 4/18/2024
    2. Batty Belfry
      Batty Belfry
      I have reset the challenge as of yesterday. Forward is the right direction. Discipline, patience, and commitment now. Getting more sleep too
      1. +TenPercent and Cool Guy 333 like this.
      2. +TenPercent
        +TenPercent
        You are a champion, Batty. You've been doing this a long time and your commitment is inspiring.
        Dec 18, 2023
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      3. Batty Belfry
        Batty Belfry
        Thank you @+TenPercent I'm committed because of you and the community. You give me plenty of reasons to do and be my best. Thank you all.
        Dec 18, 2023
        +TenPercent likes this.
    3. Batty Belfry
      Batty Belfry
      Help: I watched P. I was edging, but stopped. Fell asleep, had an emission in my sleep. Should I reset or not? 109 days when this happened.
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      2. roofs
        roofs
        For me personally, I have to reset in that case. I tend to just watch P and trick myself into thinking that's fine, but to me P I think is not much less harmful than full PMO. Nevertheless, it's never all or nothing, good that you managed to stop!
        Dec 17, 2023
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      3. Batty Belfry
        Batty Belfry
        Dec 17, 2023
      4. Dying Light
        Dying Light
        Yea, try to sleep at night. This helps to progress quicker I think.
        Dec 17, 2023
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    4. Batty Belfry
      Batty Belfry
      A year (394 days) of no PMO ended today. If I can do it once, I can do it again. Goal: No more P for the rest of my life. Let's get after it
      1. SilentWolfSong
        SilentWolfSong
        Best wishes, sorry for the lapse, let's get after it together.
        Aug 28, 2023
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    5. Batty Belfry
      Batty Belfry
      Extroverted coworkers unaware of introverts at work. Tried talking during a meeting; no reaction, ignored. I let my work speak for itself.
      1. {Ananta} likes this.
      2. from2003
        from2003
        Just keep try to talk with ehm, one day they cam be your good friends. Little courage is true magic.
        Nov 11, 2022
      3. Batty Belfry
        Batty Belfry
        Thank you for the encouragement and support @from2003
        Nov 11, 2022
    6. Batty Belfry
      Batty Belfry
      1. black_coyote likes this.
    7. Batty Belfry
      Batty Belfry
      Deleted dating apps. Stopped selling myself, earning long-term gains. Freelancing for freedom, seeking a high salary job for security.
      1. LifeIsATrial likes this.
    8. Batty Belfry
      Batty Belfry
      Stop PMO = Stop pursuing women. Catch-22: you are attracted and indifferent to women. Blinders off, discernment on, for the right people.
    9. Batty Belfry
      Batty Belfry
      Remember, P does nothing for you. P uses you, makes you do everything for P. P takes all good away from you. Go towards what matters most.
      1. ARCEUS likes this.
    10. Batty Belfry
      Batty Belfry
      August 12 2022 - Tip: Use app blocker 1 to block app blocker 2 (after you set what you are blocking on 2) so you don't unblock 2 endlessly.
    11. Batty Belfry
      Batty Belfry
      August 6 2022 - Bought Braun alarm clock. Phone off at 5pm, at foot of bed. Power saving mode + app blockers = dumb phone. Distraction-free.
    12. Batty Belfry
      Batty Belfry
      July 23 2022 - Protect your energy. Protect your sexual energy. Anything below the belt must not be crossed.
      1. TheIntelligent likes this.
    13. Batty Belfry
      Batty Belfry
      July 20 2022 - The old you is not the real you, the new you is. Don't hurt yourself, heal yourself. Pace yourself, but fight stagnation.
    14. Batty Belfry
      Batty Belfry
      July 18 2022 - Relapsed after 99 days, stress from home life and meeting quotas at work. Deleted apps and removed access. I can do better.
      1. swazzy1 likes this.
      2. Deleted Account
        Deleted Account
        99 days is outstanding. Go for 1000. ;-)
        Jul 21, 2022
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      3. Batty Belfry
        Jul 21, 2022
    15. Batty Belfry
      Batty Belfry
      June 27 2022 - 2 new remote jobs. Plan to work them more than my P-T jobs. Income streams that serve your time, mental health, and wallet.
      1. SirErnest likes this.
    16. Batty Belfry
      Batty Belfry
      June 12 2022 - Charity cocktail event; spent more $ catering, not many thank you's. Some kind faces. Made 2 sales. No more events w/ booze.
      1. Mr. Crab likes this.
    17. Batty Belfry
      Batty Belfry
      May 25 2022 - Stayed up all night until 6am working on my website. My landing pages, links, and design are up to speed now. Progress.
      1. you_can_UK likes this.
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      3. Batty Belfry
        Batty Belfry
        Nice, @Cirilla It's for my small business. It started as a blog and became a side hustle. Trying to get the ball rolling again before the end of this year or for early next year.
        May 26, 2022
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      4. Cirilla
        Cirilla
        Love it! Hope you get a lot of traffic :)
        May 26, 2022
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      5. Batty Belfry
        Batty Belfry
        Thank you, @Cirilla and continued success for you too!
        May 26, 2022
    18. Batty Belfry
      Batty Belfry
      May 11 2022 - Phone call from same girl I met. My "date" was her professional meeting. I didn't ask if she wanted a relationship. What now?
    19. Batty Belfry
      Batty Belfry
      May 4 2022 - First date in 6 years. She came early to study. Helped write her apps. Both introverted, talked for six hours over coffee.
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      2. Surge95
        Surge95
        That's great stay forward !
        May 5, 2022
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      3. Kingfisher
        Kingfisher
        May 5, 2022
        Surge95, Batty Belfry and you_can_UK like this.
      4. Batty Belfry
        Batty Belfry
        May 5, 2022
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    20. Batty Belfry
      Batty Belfry
      April 27 2022 - Working this summer, saving and paying off debt. Getting a FT job. Grateful to be of good use. Keep on the right direction.
      1. silex_jedi likes this.
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      3. Batty Belfry
        Apr 27, 2022
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      4. silex_jedi
        silex_jedi
        thank you. so ok: fingers crossed for the job!
        Apr 28, 2022
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      5. Batty Belfry
        Batty Belfry
        Apr 28, 2022
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  • About

    Gender:
    Male
    Birthday:
    Nov 20, 1995 (Age: 28)
    Location:
    United States of America
    Occupation:
    Writer
    Hello NoFap members,

    This is Batty Belfry joining you on the rebooting and retention lifestyle. I started watching pornography since I was 17 and have handled my sexual urges better, but not completely, in my early twenties.

    I recognize that I am attracted to women and for more than just their physique. I have friendships with women and have never had a relationship with a woman. The problem I feel and think I have is that I attract women in a way that has no sexual intentions, even though I am still sexually attracted to women.

    I understand that to know the person first is necessary to starting, building, having, and maintaining a relationship. I understand there is more to life than just sex, but of course, there would be no life without it.

    Humor aside, my circumstances (my conservative, religious, small town upbringing, for example) have taught, if not dictated, my approach to sexuality and relationships.

    My goals for and beyond NoFap are to:

    - Control emotional and physical responses.
    - Balance sexual urges with nonsexual activity.
    - Have meaningful, healthy, not regressive, relationships.

    To achieve these goals, I have written five core values:

    - Validation

    I am living proof that life in me and through me will carry purpose without the approval of others; unless it should make them better to have been inspired or advisory as my witness.

    How I approach my happenings and callings will be discerned by my character and by those who know my character. I choose myself not over another, but in the hope that I can become selfless.

    To the point of precipitation, may I cast rains of my good fortunes, whether it be a downour or a drop, so that it may be absorbed again and be shed once more for the people with and without clouds over their heads.

    Knowing the backs of my hands as well as the bottoms of my feet is my journey. Moving forward while standing still is my destination. Validation begins and ends always with the self.

    - Authenticity

    The true self presents itself through concrete changes in that my aims are not self-defeating. Self-discovery and self-awareness are the pours on the skin of authenticity.

    Being born anew is a constant exercise of the soul imbedded in the words and acts closely woven and to be worn as a diligent wardrobe. I will not only dress the part but will become the part I was made for.

    However, like a wardrobe, authenticity is not without divergence. There are many accessories that on the surface seem disingenuous and gaudy to the beholder, but as the wearer, it is a statement more than fashion only I can wear. Authenticity is the magician without his magic; the trick is to tell and to live the truth.

    - Love

    The matters of the heart think with a self-respecting emotional intelligence. It does not project selfish indulgence or pump empty promises that can only lead to bad blood. True love is a love of the self which translates to a common love for others.

    I hold a caring disposition in fear that no one cares at all and in strength that I still care despite being my own or part of the minority. It is a dangerous thing not to care, for there is no love where there is no care.

    The true exception revolves around self-love, where care must be placed on not only the little things but on the larger than life concerns set out for myself. Loving myself will find love in new places and faces who double the love to be had.

    - Originality

    Inspiration and aspiration, invention and reinvention, are distinct equals in the case of creation. As a creator, I will not rely on derivative platitudes or cluttering cliches as adequate expressions or explanations.

    Rather, the moments where I find lacking will force my unconscious feelings to become conscious thoughts and words for memories in the making.

    My ideas will be my own while accepting their close inspirations and far aspirations. To be original, I must practice while not succumbing to perfection and focus on fulfilling my good intentions and turn them into
    good actions.

    - Routine

    I will not have my hands be made idle. My work will become my play and when need be I will find the necessary separation of the two. I will shape a world of stagnation into one of dedication.

    Time will not be determined by the clock's hands but by the willingness of mine. Seconds or a century, my goals will not bend unlike my mode of operation. How I reach my successes wanes in the shadow of my reach still being done. I have a diligent and flexible work ethic that does not fall into mundanity, but rises through creativity.

    I will meet every day with sights on the next day so that I may say the days before me meant well and the days ahead of me mean better. On my last day, if I should have the company of one, it will have meant my trials and errors amounted to the continuous power of a hopeful routine.

    Thank you for learning more about me, and I look forward to adding more value to an already invaluable community,

    Batty Belfry

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