Recent content by JamesD

I tried this for a while. I think it only really works if you do it with a partner or possibly accountability partner. Otherwise it ends up as just another fetish bouncing round your head. That is, it needs to be seen as a long term solution. I'd be interested if you keep us updated.

Out of curiousity, how did the chastity device work out for you?

This is quite common. Your brain quickly moves on to novelty with porn. It's a slippery slope. After a while people 'want' to be the people in the porn scenes. This may make you want to be the girl if you find her particularly desireable. Best and healthiest mind is to avoid it. That's the bit...

I tried a chastity tube and locking timer key box. If I'm honest it didn't really help. The whole experience made me think about and desire sex all the more. The only exception I'd make is that if you have a partner or AP who is willing to hold the key and discuss with you your urges, this may...

Hi, I have a long history of porn addiction and now impotence. It has adversely affected my relationship with my partner. She has asked that I move in with her. I am scared for many reasons. Has anyone else suffered a porn addiction then moved in with their partner?

In the past I have noticed nearly the same effect, and I liked it. Usually after a week or two of little or no P, I just start to notice things I hadn't before. It brings out my 'natural' interests, rather than dwelling in this self-tortured fantasy world.

It's worth reminding myself of this. And she is objectively beautiful too (as well as cleaver and a nice person). Hoping you find the right person soon.

Thanks. I think you are right. I owe it to myself (and probably more importantly her) to get clean of PMO before making any decisions.

I find this a really difficult post to make, so please bear with me. I have had a long term porn addiction. Also, I often catch myself ogling women in public (ie I find them attractive at a physical level). I often find that I am unable to connect emotionally or intellectually with my partner...

Yes, I'm not sure it really size matters. On top of that, I used to think that girls flocked to men with big muscles. A handful do but most find it really unnatural.

What is it about Saturday morning that triggers you, or leads you to relapse?

I too have used them. They are difficult to get past. Best not to have any in the house. After not using them a while, the craving does pass.

Good luck!

I think that once a fetish becomes an obsession it becomes a problem. For a large part of my life, I haven't been able to get hard or orgasm unless I was thinking of one of a few very specific things. This has hurt me and my past partners as it means I usually haven't been fully engaged with...

Please don't take this the wrong way, as I don't have all the answers. Playing games with people over the internet may not give you the feelings of love and connection that you should get from friends. I don't know your situation but you may be better off to spend time with people in real life...