Recent content by JamesTheSquirrel

Your situation reminds me a lot of my own. I hid my P use and my relationship definitely suffered from PIED. At the start of my recovery process my wife was ready to leave me and I fully believed that she would go through with that. I got started with NoFap, did hard mode to begin with and...

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I'm a fair bit younger than your husband (25) but using the reason/excuse of being tired all the time was something I did a lot when I was actively feeding my addiction. My desire towards my wife is so much higher than it was and I definitely want sex far more than once a month now. I know...

Day 100 no PM. I guess I should be happy but I'm still annoyed that I broke my previous streak.

I don't know the details of your partners past relationships but almost everyone has some kind of baggage. I would argue that being a porn addict is pretty hefty baggage when it comes to entering a relationship. You can be the person who breaks the cycle and provides her with a relationship that...

I definitely had a problem with lying which was tied into my addiction. I think it started off when I was a teenager, hiding things from my parents but then went to hiding things from my wife. The thing is with lying is that it's an easy way to avoid the consequences of your actions until things...

That's definitely what I'm trying to do. I know exactly what I have to lose if I don't get things together. It was a big motivator for me at the start of my recovery and something I definitely feel like I lost sight of before my relapses.

It's obvious that you don't want to tell your wife and as a recovering addict I understand that point of view. It took me a long time to come clean to her and my recovery has been far better for it. You've asked for advice and people have given you a range of different answers. The truth is...

You share a few similarities with me in that you are bisexual and married. I've been married for nearly 3 years and we have a child on the way. I hid my bisexuality even after I initially came clean to my wife and only admitted it to her after my third time of "full disclosure". In my personal...

Fellow British person saying hi. Wish I had the dedication to quit before I started uni. I fully agree regarding reddit, I had a 480 day streak which I blew by going back on reddit last month. Best of luck with your journey!

It wasn't an issue before she got pregnant. The biggest trauma she's facing at the moment is from her miscarriages and she wants to do everything in her power to avoid that from happening in her current pregnancy. She has a lot of ptsd regarding what she went through and still experiences...

Thanks Reverent, I appreciate the support and it's good to know someone gets it. It can be difficult finding people who properly understand what's going on at the moment. Being authentic and genuine was a big reason why my wife liked me so much when we met. I messed that up by relapsing in my...

Thanks for the reply. My wife is currently having counselling for a few different reasons and I think it's helping. I hope things will get a lot easier after the end of the pregnancy. Talking about intimacy is something I've always struggled with and over the past couple of days I've realised...

Sorry to hear that you and your wife also experienced losses. My wife hasn't been on any kind of hormones for 6 years but she does have endometriosis. Her symptoms were a lot better in the months between her first and second miscarriages and this pregnancy, which is going well so far. We are...

I'm sorry but I completely disagree with your post. Being a strong man is not about hiding your weakness and deceiving your partner. In my opinion it shows far more strength to admit my faults and be open with my wife. I could have just tried to ignore what had happened but if I did I wouldn't...