(1) By the LORD Jesus Christ's grace, I am learning that there is nothing more self destructive to a man than wasting your time chasing after women, lust and sex. Men who take that route, in history and in life, never end up well.
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(1) Happiness is a result of making good decisions that benefit you and everyone around you. Temptation is a test to see if you are committed to the decision you have made And every test, in my opinion, is asking the following -- are you going to choose the LORD God, future happiness or are you giving into the desire, sacrificing future happiness for short term pleasure.
(1) My obsession with Porn and Masturbation was always a desperate search for love and attention. I desired love, connection. I wanted to feel like I mattered to people but I just couldnt get it in real life for the longest time. So I looked in all of the wrong places. That is what this addiction boils down to in my experience -- a lack of love.
(1) Everyone is accountable for every decision they make. During my addiction, it was so easy for me to give in because I was only ever accountable to myself. But that is not true in life. In life, we are accountable to our family, our loved one's, our descendants and future generations, our bosses, our community, our country, the LORD God.
(1) The reason why it's hard to resist the desire for PMO and lust is because it often comes with a promise that we often believe. If you use PMO, you will feel better. Or your only source of happiness is PMO. But this promise is often a lie. If I want to know whether the promise is a lie, I ask myself, does this serve and benefit me, everyone around me, and the LORD JESUS CHRIST?
When you do not have self control, you will be controlled by your desires. How do you gain self control -- By aiming for a consequence that benefits you and everyone around you at the same time.
Do not sacrifice future greatness for momentary pleasure and momentary weakness.
Saw this one on a YouTube channel and it was so apt. Decided to share it here.
(1) Change isn't about resisting what you do not want to do. That is a waste of energy and willpower. There is an old you with habits you do not like. Instead of trying to repress this old you, use your energy and willpower to do what the new you you want to become would do.
(1) Happiness is a product of making the right decisions. The reason why PMO is so seductive is that it fools you into believing that the pleasure you get from using PMO will bring you happiness. But we all know that it doesn't. Short term and Long term.
Motion does not follow emotion. Emotion follows motion. In the sense that you do not have to act on your desires automatically.
The desires and thoughts in your mind are incredibly deceptive. Measure every thought and desire on the standard of truth and humility. Humility, in my experience, is service (doing what others require from you however uncool) and learning from others who have successfully handled that situation you are thinking about.
Please check out Professor Bruce K Alexander's Rat Park. Everyone suffering from addiction needs to read it. Scary but absolutely fascinating read.
Please check out Professor Bruce K Alexander's Rat Park. Everyone suffering from addiction needs to read it. Scary but absolutely fascinating read.
You have to admit to yourself that you love Porn and Masturbation when it isn't good for you. It's like loving shooting yourself in the foot. A bit extreme but it's the same principle. Realizing that you love something that isn't good for you is a first step to breaking it's power over you. An enemy you recognize, is an enemy you are on your way to beating.
Easter is about rebirth and regeneration. You will overcome this darkness brothers. You will have better days ahead. Your lives will be restored. You will be made anew. I hope you all had a wonderful Easter.
I was talking to someone online and he told me that he keeps forgetting that he has a choice everytime that desire overpowers him. Made me think, sometimes in our psyche we believe or we forget that we have a choice. This is wrong. This is a lie. You have to practice to remind your psyche that you have a choice -- crazy I know. You can say no to evil. You can say no to Porn and Masturbation.
(1) This is for any Christian struggling with the shame of their actions. Take it to the LORD JESUS CHRIST in prayer. He will wash us clean. Trust in Him however long it takes, He keeps His promises.
(1) The reason why you do things is just as important as doing them. When I first started out NoFap, I wanted to quit because I wanted to have sex with lots of girls or beat some streak but it would never work.
(1) As men we need a mission that benefits everyone around us, something to do that contributes good into the world that we can focus on beyond our selfish desires.
In life you have to have a compelling reason for why you do anything. The same goes with quitting Pornography and Masturbation. You have to find a reason why you want to quit and it has to be genuine -- in the sense that when you have your back against the wall, you are still motivated to keep on fighting. Only you can figure out what that is. -
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