Myfortress
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Myfortress

Fapstronaut, Male, 52

4 months Jan 1, 2019

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Viewing thread My Secret History Untolded, Nov 17, 2019 at 7:31 PM
    1. Dev47b
      Dev47b
      Hi. I am looking for AP
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      2. Myfortress
        Myfortress
        I am a rookie but I am happy to do it.
        Feb 27, 2019
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      3. Myfortress
        Myfortress
        Want to use telegram? My name is the same there.
        Feb 27, 2019
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    2. Myfortress
      Myfortress
      4 months
      1. ArsenalAffliction
        ArsenalAffliction
        Yeeethhhh
        Jan 9, 2019
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    3. What I Do That Defines Me
    4. idekbro
      idekbro
      How does this work?
      1. Myfortress
        Myfortress
        I would suggest you read the nofap welcome booklet. Find a group to join where you can start posting or messaging people who are struggling with the same problem. I am a member of the Christian group. You are welcome to join that group. Or there is a student group.
        Dec 22, 2018
    5. Myfortress
      Myfortress
      90 days and not looking back
    6. Myfortress
      Myfortress
      60 days and counting
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    Gender:
    Male
    Birthday:
    Oct 3, 1967 (Age: 52)
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    I was an angry, bitter, selfish, know-it-all, womanizer who was hooked on pornography, for decades. I also used alcohol and drugs, sometimes in excess.

    Angry that everything did not go perfectly. Angry at the way my life turned out. I could not celebrate other people’s successes. I did not have any real friendships. I was secluded.

    I became very selfish, I was only concerned with myself and what others could do for me. I never thought of others.

    I did not listen when others tried to help me make good decisions. I did not listen when people were trying to give me good advice/constructive criticism. I took it all like criticism aimed at making me feel bad. This was how I criticized others, to make them feel bad. I did not understand that people who cared about me wanted to help me improve and not make the same mistakes they had. So I resisted the good advice and made some horrible decisions. I suffered the consequences, and learned that way, from the school of hard knocks. It is only by God’s grace that I did not die.

    I started looking at pornographic magazines from the age of about 7 yrs. old. As a teenager, I began masturbating. Before long I had a willing girlfriend. We had sex all of the time. There were two long term ones and several short term ones. There was a failed marriage and a son. After this divorce I was depressed for years.

    Then I found Christ and a new bride all at the same time. I realized one day, after I got married that I was trapped in a prison. A slave to my sin. I felt like I could never get out. I was being bombarded with images, movies and videos, live women that fueled a fantasy. I was letting my fantasy life rule my actions. There were all of these triggers that led me into the temptation. It could be an image, advertisement, sound… I had no self-control, no restraint. Pleasure was my god, my idol. This was a stronghold that I did not want God to destroy. I was being unfaithful to my husband, Christ. Cheating on God. Flirting with Christ, and grieving the Holy Spirit. I thought women existed to fulfill all of my fantasies. I got married and expected this from my wife. So the pornography and masturbation continued whenever she would not fulfill my selfish desire.

    I found hope in the one who invented sex, God. A personal relationship with him started me on the road out of bondage and on to freedom. The fantasy world that I created was a lie, created by the enemy that robbed me of healthy relationships with women and most importantly, God. With the help of God, and his unlimited grace, I am gradually re-programming my mind and breaking out of the prison I was in, not to mention the consequences that accompany it.

    I realize now that all of the symptoms above: bitterness, anger, shame, a critical spirit, hardheadedness, selfishness, and a lack of close friends were a byproduct of my decades of immorality. Since I came to Christ 17 years ago it has been an uphill battle to get my life back. It has been a long painful journey with Christ. I fell back into porn probably hundreds of times. Within the last couple of years my intimacy with Christ has improved significantly. I finally realized that the depth of his grace and forgiveness will never run out, no matter how many times I fall. The closer I got to Jesus the less I wanted the porn. The more I realized the effect on my personality, family and quality of life the less I want to go back. Now I am past the two month mark on abstaining and my goal is to never go back. Does that rule out a relapse, no but the more I draw near to the Lord the more I feel like I will not go back. I am looking forward to my next goal of enjoying my relationship with my savior and my wife!

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