NewJO981

I don't want to quit masturbation, and I'm not so sure I want to quit porn either, seeing as I don't watch mainstream porn that I think may actually be harmful. (Porn that places super high expectations for sex etc.)

What I want to get rid of, and hope to achieve by coming here is my "death grip," and problems with inorgasmia.

Growing up, I learned to masturbate using what's called the "prone" position, stimulating myself by rubbing my flaccid penis against the carpet. I learned this is actually harmful, and tried transitioning to using my hand when I masturbate, but as a result I feel I've been desensitized. To date, it takes me ages to bring myself off using my hand, and I need a lot of visual stimulation to get me going.

My goals, what I hope to gain from a "reboot" is to gain sensitivity, and re-learn how to masturbate using my hand, and learn to masturbate, to appreciate the sensation my penis gives me, without the need for porn. Of course I like porn, but I don't like the fact that I *have* to be watching it to hasten my orgasm. I want to be able to masturbate independently of it, and when I have sex, I want to enjoy the moment with my partner and not have my mind wander off because the sensations I get from penetration aren't enough.